Don't give out more info than you realize

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Don't give out more info than you realize
Thu, 04-14-2011 - 2:06pm

I've been emailing a guy through an OLD site and he gave me his home phone no--by doing a reverse lookup, I was able to get his home address, full name and then a map to his house w/ also a visual (Google earth or other sites).

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Registered: 04-08-2011
Fri, 04-15-2011 - 12:12am
No joke!!! That's crazy, you're right though! Work and home numbers are likely to be listed publicly and make it super easy to find people.
It's amazing anyway that with a simple first and last name...where they live...or where they went to school...juuuustt how much information you can find out about someone on google.

I'm not going to lie, I've definitely googled someone before a first date/meeting...but after an incident where this guy had CLEARLY googled me and was reciting all kinds of information about me that I had NEVER mentioned I was way creeped out..and decided googling may be bad...

I work in a jail--so now I just search their name in our inmate records...that way I know I'm not about to go on a date with a rapist or some dude who doesn't pay child support!
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 04-15-2011 - 10:48am

Well, that's convenient--although I know in MA it's illegal for a person who has access to criminal records to access it for unofficial business, so watch out that you don't get caught doing it.

I was talking on the phone w/ the guy last night and he mentioned that he was not computer savvy and was new to OLD so maybe if he turns out to be nice, I'll mention how easy it is for someone to find info if you give your home no.

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Registered: 01-25-2010

Hi Music.


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Registered: 04-09-2008
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 11:30pm

Wow, that's nuts that you found so much info on him, and so easily. I've made sure there isn't traceable info like that about me on the net.

Even still, I recommend getting a google voice number, and NOT giving your last name to someone until after you've met them in a public place and KNOW for sure you want to see them again. Also, with google voice you can block a number. In addition, if you email a lot while doing OLD (which most do!), use a throwaway address with just your ID in the from field, and use that ID for instant messaging, too.

Another idea for privacy is ... If you do give your cell phone out (only give it out if it isn't searchable anywhere!)... If things don't work out with someone you can assign a "phone number disconnected" greeting to that number/caller. They'll think you've disconnected your number, and most likely won't call it again. Youmail is great for going NC on someone.


On a side note, I remember in one of my last experiences with dating, this guy who has an IT job with a huge credit card company actually asked me (right after he told me all about his job in which he also casually threw in how he has access to their full client databases) what my full name is."By the way, what's your full name?" Yeah right! LOL So you can go look me up in your system and find out my credit/debt situation!? His finesse was, uh, nonexistent. I interrupted him and acted like I had a call I had to take. People can be weird and unfortunately, "stalking" is becoming the norm these days.