don't want to be naive

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2003
don't want to be naive
2
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 12:06pm
hi all,
I've been seeing this guy (once a week or so)for the last month and a half. We don't talk everyday. We met on a dating website so i'm sure he is going ou on other dates. I hate when I see that he logged in to the website but I do i too and I go on other dates although I haven't met anyone I like as much as him. I do it bec. I never want to wait around for a guy. So we haven't spoken since last thursday and he emailed me today for my AIM name. I emailed back and we talked for a while. We didn't make plans but he was flirting. Ugh, I don' want to be naive and think that he is really interested in me but I also hate being so negative. Any suggestions?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 12:32pm
So the guy you have been seeing for the last month asked for you AIM screenname? Or someone else did? And which haven't you talked to since last Thurs? Sorry I want to give you my two cents, for free of course, but I am a little confused.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-16-1997
Thu, 08-11-2005 - 1:46pm

From what you've described, his interest in you at this point sounds only rather mild. Let's say this was a case of RWD and the internet didn't factor into it at all. You could assume he's busy doing other things or seeing other people, but the main thing is that whatever is occupying his time, it surely ain't you.

After a month and a half of once-a-week dates, he should know if he likes you enough to see you exclusively. On the other hand, it could be that he senses you really like him and so he can afford to be less attentive, because the little bit of attention he's giving you now is keeping you hanging on (and wanting more).

Sooooo, if it were me, I wouldn't call him nor would I be available the next time he calls for a date. Also, I'd try to redirect my efforts in getting to know the guys who DO really show their interest.

Perhaps he'll step up to the plate and express a desire to see you more often. If not, then it's his loss. One thing I've learned the hard way, you can't force what isn't there. If he's not "that" into you by now, it's time to move on.

Heymum