Don't want to sound "loose" here, lol ..

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Don't want to sound "loose" here, lol ..
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 7:27pm

but one of the threads below made me want to ask this. I am glad to see that people here are open about discussing sex in the whole realm of dating - & it seems no one is judgemental either, which is nice.


So, this may not be so much a question, as some rambling - of whats going thru my mind these days.


I was married 7 yrs, with him 9. Seperated & filed for D a bit more than a year ago (my choice due to his alcoholism, abuse & refusal to work - nice guy ... ).

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:22pm

Ok, I don't have children. However I am a woman and I like sex. LOL. You are a woman. Yes, you're a mother too... but that doesn't mean the womanly needs should be forgotten. I say go for it. It sounds like you have your head on right, that you know not to bring your kids into the situation, etc. All I say is take all precautions and enjoy.


Carpe diem! :o) hehe

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 8:57pm

I agree.

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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:19pm
I agree with the others go for it as long as you are clear on what you need from it and he is clear as well. He is a good candidate especially that he is younger, hot and lives a bit far away :)
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Mon, 02-27-2006 - 10:39pm

What is "loose" anyway? I have always hated that double standard. We aren't kids, we're perfectly capable of making decisions regarding our sex lives and being responsible for our actions. Women have the same choices as men, or should have. Being a mother has NOTHING to do with it. Of COURSE we don't expose our children to the private side of our lives but that doesn't mean those private sides don't exist.

I agree with the other posters who said you sound like you have your head on straight. Live according to your own principles and values. Clearly you have standards and they sound like good ones.

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Tue, 02-28-2006 - 9:51am

You really don't say what the potential is for the 2 local guys you are dating but are they (or at least one of them) candidates for a long term relationship? If so, why not focus your time and energies on them instead of the FlingThing.

Let's look down the line: It's July. You have settled in one of the local guys. You have a lot in common and you are in a full blown relationship. You're very happy. Then your beau finds out that in March you were jumping in the sack with the Boston Banger while you're telling HIM, "I can't be intimate with you."

He'd most likely be pretty upset with that.

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Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:27am
I say....Get your freak on girl!
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Tue, 02-28-2006 - 10:59am

"Boston Banger" , lol. YOU said it, not ME! lol


Well, potential for these

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 02-28-2006 - 11:00am
Well, I am glad to see I am in like-minded company here!

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