Drinking Status

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Registered: 01-20-2010
Drinking Status
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Thu, 01-21-2010 - 4:16pm

How important of a trait is it whether someone drinks or not?


I stopped drinking a year ago for both health and personal reasons, and for a while, I had put my status in my profile as a non-drinker.

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Registered: 03-27-2004
In reply to: mrblue732
Sat, 01-30-2010 - 1:17pm

I'm a total wino, but keep it in check because I'm also educated on the health risks that go along with that.

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Registered: 01-28-2005
In reply to: mrblue732
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 2:31pm

I suggest that you just say you drink very rarely and very little. No need for some major truth telling moments.

Personally, I'd be worried that a non-drinker would judge my wine-lovin' ways and/or tried to change me. If he didn't care, I didn't care.

That said, you can quickly determine if a lady is your match drinking wise. If partying and getting drunk are important for her, she might not be the one for you.

Unfortunately, online world is full of prejudices and the non-drinking is one of them, especially for a man... Not sure why, I know of quite a few female alcoholics.

You might want to invite the lady to have coffee instead to have a drink as a first meet.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
In reply to: mrblue732
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 6:46pm

I used to not date guys who were non drinkers. Mainly because I'm a bit more than a social drinker, and I didn't want to make anyone uncomfortable. I also don't want to feel as though I'm being judged. I drink socially pretty often, I drink 1 or 2 glasses of wine at home at least a few times a week. I enjoy getting drunk once in a while (but not to the point of throwing up or passing out or anything).

I've dated a couple of guys who don't drink in the last year, and it wasn't really that big of a deal. But the relationships also never progressed past a few dates for completely different reasons, so I don't know how it would have played out in the long term.

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Registered: 09-22-2009
In reply to: mrblue732
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 11:00am

'....and I will party just as long and hard as someone who does drink.'


Ehhhh oooook. Tell me MrBlue732, how DO you party sober? Do you sort of stand around and try to persuade yourself, by efforts of

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Registered: 01-20-2010
In reply to: mrblue732
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 11:51am

Thank you Glammy for contributing the most VALUABLE post in this entire thread.

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Registered: 09-22-2009
In reply to: mrblue732
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 12:12pm
SORRY if I offended you! Like I said, I don't party sober, and to me, 'I don't drink' = 'I used to be an alcoholic'. You asked, I answered. It's very hard for me to grasp the 'I don't drink because I just don't' concept, I like my red wine too much. All the best to you, have a diet coke on me at your next party! :)
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Registered: 08-24-2006
In reply to: mrblue732
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 2:10pm

I have some friends who are Mormon. I always thought it was weird that they would come to bars and parties and cut loose as much as anyone else. I thought maybe they just weren't that devout. Until I started paying attention and realized I never once saw them with an alcoholic beverage.

I don't doubt at all that you can have a great time without drinking. In fact I've felt for a while like I couldn't have a good time at parties without drinking quite a bit, and to me it was a problem and an unhealthy attitude, so I've been working on cutting back in social situations and sticking with one drink. I have no problem drinking when I want to and when it's appropriate, but I don't like feeling as though I *have* to.

I've dated guys who didn't drink or very rarely drank because they hit a point where they felt it was becoming unhealthy and they were doing it to cope with pressure, so they just quit altogether. I thought that was responsible thing to do, and I respected that.

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Registered: 03-27-2004
In reply to: mrblue732
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 9:10pm

Goth, you sound like fun and to a point I understand your views.

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Registered: 10-10-2008
In reply to: mrblue732
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 6:10am
IMAO: order tonic water and say that you are driving or your were not feeling like drinking so you could give her full attention!
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Registered: 12-02-2009
In reply to: mrblue732
Fri, 02-12-2010 - 10:19pm

I say "valuable" in the sense that it proves how weak-minded and pathetically shallow some women can be to make such assumptions, and why I felt I had to post the original query to see if that theory was indeed true.


Did you really come here to test a theory? Because if you did, I'm not sure the results will 'hold water.' Did you get enough responses for a statistically valid sample, I mean?


And even if you did, our opinions are really only a snap shot. OLD and the people who participate are just so varied. When we start to assume in advance how someone else perceives us, I think it sets us up to be be disappointed with what is supposed to be a new and fun experience.


That said, I understand your concern. I think I did respond earlier that I 'wonder' if someone has an alcohol problem if they list themselves as non-drinker. But that is more from my own experience as the daughter of a alcoholic. And the fact that non-drinking adults are more the exception than the rule.


But that wouldn't stop me from meeting someone if I was truly interested in all of his other qualities. And I wouldn't immediately assume he is no fun either.


I do drink socially. But I have rarely been drunk in my 40+ plus years because of the memories from my childhood. And like you, I can have a blast at parties whether I drink or not. In fact, I actually enjoy being one of the sober ones and helping those who

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