Drive By "Meet & Greets"

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Drive By "Meet & Greets"
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:24pm

I'm actually about to meet someone that I've been chatting with on CL. He's in the area so he is going to drive by my job -- well the parking lot next to where I work -- just so we can meet. Lately, it seems I've been chatting with men, and they have suggested the "drive-by" meet and greet! Over the weekend, another guy wanted to meet and was heading to a party, and wanted me to meet him at the mall to do a drive-by! I declined, since I wasn't in the mood to go anywhere and we ended up meeting the next day for coffee.

Anyway, have others been approached by this new terminology of meets & greets -- now being called "drive-by"??? Have meetings in coffee shops or the bookstore now being thought of as "wasting too much time"??

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:32pm

LOL... my honest first thought? I think they just want to know if you are THAT low maintenance. I.E. if you have that low of standard for a first meet, maybe they'll get in your pants quicker too.

Who doesn't have 15-30 minutes for coffee? Jeez Louise, somebody's been watching too many Comcast commercials.

"Hi, I'd like a latte. (2 seconds later) Excuse me, where's my latte?"

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:42pm
I haven't (fortunately) and frankly think it's really strange!! Seriously, who can't take 30 minutes to have a cup of coffee! I'd say I guess they want to make sure you are what you say before investing much time, but how lazy is that?!? ;-) Good luck - I don't think I'd want to do many of these.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:55pm

I agree with the other gals. Personally, when I was online, my goal was to find someone to spend time with... out of that, I met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with... but, I digress.

I'm a believer of meet for a coffee or drink. My first online date was for a drink, and I had my drink, and said goodbye. My second date (second guy), we sat and talked in the bar/restaurant/tavern for five hours. This is the man that I never run out of stuff to talk to about, we've been together just about a year now. I didn't want to meet someone that was just squeezing me in, or driving by to see if I was "worth it".

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:58pm

Well THANK GOD it was a "drive-by"! Disastrous! OMG, this guy didn't look like ANY of his pictures! Gosh, he stated 5'10 and he is about 5'7; gold tooth and missing one (yuck!) and he looked rough! How do you have a computer business and you drive around looking rough and in a raggedy car? Geez!!

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:37pm
The lord works in mysterious ways. This guy probably has never been inside a coffee bar.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 6:03pm

He probably doesn't know how to spell coffee bar.

WOW! Steph, definitely thank your lucky stars it was a drive by. How did you "end" things?

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 6:30pm

Actually, I have a friend who will swing by my parking lot when he knows I'm getting to work if he's getting back from a trip at the same time (he's a pilot and I work at the same airport). We both think it's kind of funny.

Of course, we're friends. I would never meet a guy like that. Call me old fashioned, but I want some kind of a date. Meeting in the parking lot is for drug dealers. :-)




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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:08pm

Oh my, that is funny - I can't believe it's resorting to this?

 
 
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 12:58am

it could be a new trend on Askmen or some other site.
I would not mind it. I ve been on 12 first dates from Online and 2 from real life and regret wasting so much time when I have v. little free time. If it was a drive-by date I would have known in few minutes he is not my type. so it works as a way to filter the ones with absolutely no chemistry.

I met a guy who spent 5 hours with me and he ghosted so I wasted precious time I could have used working or studying or hanging out with my friends. (I m unavailable 60 hrs a week) Do I afford too many of these 5 hour-then-ghost-dates?? Not really. I almost sued the guy over the 5 hours :)

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 8:43am
I don't care how great the guy is, I'm not spending 5 hours on a first date. I'll give you somewhere between 30 minutes to an hour, then you are going to have to ask me out to dinner.

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