E Harmony?

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Registered: 06-26-2004
E Harmony?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 11:11am

I guess I'm wasting my time with yahoo personals.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 11:32am

I've tried it but didn't have any luck (didn't meet anyone from that site, mostly because the people I was corresponding with didn't opt to have their pictures visible at the beginning of the correspondence, and I never would have opened correspondence if I'd seen their pics at the beginning--I don't like that feature).

I don't know anyone who has met a spouse or serious SO through Eharmony (but I do know people who've met and married people they met on Match) and most of the people on this board haven't had a very positive experience (although I think one or two people have at least had some ok dates with people they met on Eharmony).

I don't think there's any one site that attracts honest, decent guys. I know people who've used Christian sites and had the same problems with dishonesty as on the mainstream sites, for example. It's all luck of the draw, I think.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-09-2005
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 11:52am
Gee, I can relate since I'm on Yahoo Personals myself. Pretty dead (few emails/Ice Breakers), but thank goodness I'm on there for FREE! I was thinking about Eharmony, and heard it was a good site, but I must admit I noticed a few guys from Yahoo, so that should tell you something. I don't think there is a GOOD site; it's like finding a needle in a haystack. It's all about timing, and being at the same place in life with an individual. My 30-day FREE trial ends in July, so I'm hopeful!! If nothing, then no big deal. Life goes on!!!
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Registered: 04-16-2004
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 12:01pm

Last fall I went to eHarmony after I became fed up with Yahoo, Match and American Singles. I met my current BF of 8 months there. Here's my take on that site.

Overall I the men I met were more "sincere" than at other sites. However, I did meet 2 men who, eventually, admited to being married and they do have their share of players and ghosts. It's just not as prevalent.

They are not cheap at $50.00 US per month. The personality test is a bit long.

I did not like that they "select" which matches you can view. You can not just browse pages of other members. You also can't see when they have visited the site or the last time they were online or if they currently "active". (A problem for a habitual snoop like me!)

You can't "fine tune" the age span in which you'd like to search. They preset the age range based on your age and, in my case, many were too old for me. Also, many matches that were way out of my geographical range eventhough I had a preset.

When I would close all those matches early on I would recieve a form email encouraging me to communicate with each and every match...as if scolding me. Um, no. Why waste my time on someone 100+ miles away or 10 years older than me or who was clearly NOT a macth in my book?

But, in general, my actual meets from eHarmony were better.

I don't think there is any one perfect site.

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Registered: 06-26-2004
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 12:07pm

You know how to get more replies on yahoo?

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Registered: 09-18-2004
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 1:11pm

ya know I liked the whole concept of eharmony when it first started becoming popular so i joined. i have had not much luck on it at all. I met a great guy but i was dating someone else at the same time. Come to find out he was also dating others too which of course i figured..

then most recently i joined again and ran into somenice guys but seemed like they were getting an awful lot of hits from other women. I amnot sure what the percentage of men vs. women is but I gotta think more women on that site than men . and finding that a few ofthe men were also complete imbusols..

i don'tlike that you can't do searches, can't see who else is on the sight.. it is very limited but that is because it is there approach.

i joined it also w/ the fact that i thought maybe there were "better catches" on that site, but honestly i have not had a lot of luck w/ it and wasted alot of money. they try to keep you hooked, when you membership starts to expire or is , you get all these hits.

i don't get a lot of response and I also think alot of guys that i get are not paying members so can't even email me.. it just too limited.

i am going to try match again and maybe something else don't know what yet. maybe ill take apoll.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 1:19pm
I did EH for a few months and wasn't impressed. I have heard there are definitely more women than men there, an oddity for OLD and not in a good way if you're a woman.
I found it depressing, especially when guys would close me out because "there was no chemistry." Hello? We haven't even met yet. And I hated depending on EH to send me matches. I also had issues with their matching methods - they'd send me guys who had nothing in common with me.
If you are going to try it, don't pay full price ($50/month). There are always deals floating around. Good luck!
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 1:33pm

>>I wasted my time talking to a guy for about 2 months, I went out on a few dates, and have caught him in so many lies already, in just this short time.


Aww, that's exactly why we have the general rule of not spending too much time building up this 'fantasy' relationship before you've actually MET.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: jodyannrn
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 1:42pm
I don't see anything better than Match in my region. I find that if you are updating your pictures and if you have been updating your text regularly that you can attract emails and inquiries.