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| Tue, 10-18-2005 - 11:43am |
Hi. Has anyone used this service? If so, what where the people like?
Thanks,
Fan
| Tue, 10-18-2005 - 11:43am |
Hi. Has anyone used this service? If so, what where the people like?
Thanks,
Fan
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Hi,
I'm on eHarmony, and this is my second time going back on their. I tried it about a year ago w/no luck. They hardly have any matches for me...some people have claimed to have over a hundred matches to choose from, unfortunately I wasn't that lucky, lol. I guess my personality is unique!
The service is not 100% accurate of course, they matched me w/someone that had a different religion than me in which I specifically stated that I wanted someone who shared the same faith that I did. They suggesst that you put your photos/pics up for viewing after open communication has begun..I disagree with that. I put my photos up first thing, and I would hope the other person would do the same. I have to see what the person looks like, granted physical attraction should not be priority BUT it does have to be there for me.
So, I've had a total of 6 matches (within a whole year). To me that is a waste of my money. I think it cost $50 to subscribe for one month. Hopefully someone on here has had better luck and advice on it than I do. Not trying to dog the site, it just didn't work for me.
I prefer match, yahoo, and dating tech network(Tango Wire)...
>It only benefits men for the most part
I don't think so.
>and if you're not slim, forget it!
I am inclined to say that if you are not stereotypical, forget it.(No offence to anyone here)
>OLD is not for me !
This I agree with. It's not for me either.
I've used it. I like it, however my area didn't have a lot of matches. I'm not close enough to Boston or NH for people to want to make the trip. I think if you live IN boston you'd have better luck or in a town closer to the NH border. But I live more central MA and unfortunately not a WHOLE lot of matches and I couldn't keep paying 50 bucks to keep it open.
But for the most part i liked the questions, the set up etc.
The important thing to know is that you have no ability to search their database. eHarmony choses your matches. Initially they sent me about 6-8 matches then as the weeks went by I'd get maybe 1-3 a week. Also many of the matches they provide for you are people who have not yet subscribed, so the idea is that if you open communication first it'll lure these guys into subscribing...just like all the other sites.
One of the big problems I had were matches that were clearly unsuitable. For example, I don't want to have kids, pretty important right?...Well I'd get matches from guys who clearly stated they wanted kids.
I opened communication with at least 20 people and all of that resulted in one meet. The guy was a bit of an odd ball.
The communication phase just seems to take soooooo long as you exchange a series of multiple choice and open ended questions before you progress to open emailing. It took a long time to meet up with this guy only to find out we were so not compatible.
I believe this has been one of eHarmony's complaints, this time factor, because just before my subscription expired, I noticed a new feature where you can go directly to open emails right away. eHarmony Express. LOL
I've seen this issue posted before and there are others who have had luck with eHarmony. I just felt it was a huge waste of time and money. I prefer match.
Hope this helps.
Michele
The sad thing is that I wasn't expecting to meet the love of my life or anything like that. I just thought it would be a good way to socialize, meet new people, make new friends, but the men turned out to be so rude and obnoxious, that none of that happened.
You would think that 40 something men would have more class and maturity, go figure !
I did the free online profile with e-harmony some time back. I found the questionnaire very tedious to fill out--some questions too trivial to base any judgement about someone's character on. Also, the one profile I was sent did NOT include a picture and he lived over 200 miles away from me. I live in Missouri and this guy lived in Nebraska. I think they mess up by trying to match personality traits TOO closely while ignoring other factors like location, physical attraction, etc.
As far as the weight issue goes, there are some men who do like heavier women. I've known a number of couples like that, but you have to be willing to accept the fact that it's usually the heavier guy who wants a heavier woman. (Although some couples I've known were the combination of a thinner guy and heavier woman.) The majority of average or thinner guys are looking for someone about the same as they are. I guess I can't fault them on that.
I also think most 40-something men should know what they want by the time they reach that age. Two of the 4 I've either met or corresponded with were clueless about what they wanted for the future. I know that I don't want to be alone when I'm in my 50's or 60's. Those two guys SAID they felt the same way, but their actions told me they weren't done playing the field. I believe that OLD should be for people who are serious about meeting someone. Trouble is, most women want something long-term, and most men are looking to have a good time. That combination of expectations makes for a lot of hurt feelings. I know, I've been there.
I prefer Match.com, too. It was important for me to search, and eharmony wasn't allowing that. I'm perfectly capable in determining what I like or don't like in a profile, and match lets you search by any criteria that you want. I thought that eharmony charged way too much for the meager results they provide you. It's awful. You just have to sit there and hope that they e-mail you something. It's not proactive at all. Plus, I work in a very, very large office building with lots of singles, and the men all agree that they just don't have the patience to go through that questionniare. So the joke is, if you're on eharmony and willing to go through all of that and pay the $99, then you must be REALLY desperate.
Just telling you what I hear.
Tobi
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