eHarmony

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Registered: 03-27-2003
eHarmony
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 11:43am

Hi. Has anyone used this service? If so, what where the people like?

Thanks,

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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: wrestleingfan
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 5:07pm
I'm extremely liberal when it comes to weight, looks;etc. Character content is my upmost priority, and that they have a good heart, the rest is gravy. I've dated all types. I enjoy diversity, I wish more people would feel that way. They don't know what they are missing, and it's too bad. Their loss, I've given up and just concentrate on having the best, fullest life possible.
The T Girl
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Registered: 07-20-2001
In reply to: wrestleingfan
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 5:18pm

I think looks/personality is an extremely complicated attraction factor. A guy could have a great personality, but if you are sickened by the thought of kissing him, then chances are not good that it will work out. Likewise, when it's the other way around. Guy #2 was extremely good looking to me, but he had the Jekyl/Hyde personality attached to the great looks. No matter how great they look, no one can live with that.

While looks aren't everything, that initial physical attraction does play a large role in the dating process. Anyone who claims that it doesn't matter what someone looks like is probably not being truthful. I personally would not be attracted to a very overweight guy. Likewise, little skinny men are a complete turn off for me as well. I will think twice about going out with a short little guy (read my Little Man's Syndrome thread). I'm not real thin myself, but I do try to watch my weight. All I can do is change what I can about myself that I'm unhappy with. If it means losing weight, I get back with the program. However, it's important for me to be happy with myself and not be doing it for someone else.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
In reply to: wrestleingfan
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 6:57pm

I think it's a rip-off, in fact I've heard it called E-rip off. After paying their exhorbitant fee, they produced a small handful of "matches", all of whom were substantially older than me, and none of whom I found attractive. Also, I don't like that you have to rely on them to match you...you can't look through their data base.

rip off.

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Registered: 01-09-2004
In reply to: wrestleingfan
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 6:58pm
I've used eharmony and am actually subscribed to it now, but probably won't renew when it runs out. I never paid that full price. The first three months I used it, I did get well over 100 matches, but most of them are really far away. I did meet up with one and dated two fo them for a couple of months. The guy I recently ended it with, but we're still friends and going to a hockey game next month, is a great guy. I guess you probably get less players ont his site because most won't want to bother doing the long personality profile. There are definitely more women on the site than men because the guy I'm referring to gave me his password and we've looked at his iste together. (He ended his subscription and just wants to find someone "naturally" now) He had a lot of matches! I chose eharmony because I liked the fact that nobody could go on-line and just see me. I might give match a try when my eharmony runs out. It still makes me a little uncomfortable that someone could come up to me somewhere and say "I saw you on match.com." Just me I guess.
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Registered: 09-26-2005
In reply to: wrestleingfan
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 10:01pm
Yes attraction is a complicated thing, however as long as I'm not repulsed by his looks, I will still give myself a chance to get to know him. I'm not into the love at first sight thing nor do I have to be instantly attracted to him. In most of my relationships, I was not attracted at first, but rather as time developed and I get to know them, then the attraction developed. My ex looked just like George Costanza, and many women would pass him up because he was short and fat, by I saw something there. We were together 3 years, and although things didn't work out we remain good friends. Imagine what I would have missed out on if I hadn't given him a chance. I just wish people would look beyond the surface that's all.
There's nothing about myself I would change, I love my big, beautiful bod. It's my bread and buttter. I'm a part time free lance plus size model, so I have to be careful not to lose or gain weight. There is no way I would ever lose weight anyway, if men have a problem with it than tough sh--.
A few ladies here are talking about joining Match, be careful my all time worst experiences were with Match. The men on there for the most part were very mean spirited
and rude, rude, rude.
The T Girl

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