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| Sat, 04-02-2005 - 9:07am |
Has anyone had good experiences with Eharmony? I just signed up for a one month subscription and started corresponding with someone that lives in my area. I want to hear about the good things;but, if people have bad experiences that would be helpful, too.
Thanks!
Christy

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Sorry to disappoint you, but in my 6 months membership, in a very big market, I finally met my first person this week.
Hi Christy...
Pianoguy had to smile after reading your question.
I've been on eH off and on for about a year. Probably 6-8 months in total time. I have met more guys from eH than I have from any other site, but there has been no chemistry with any of them. I went on a second date with one no-spark guy but I knew I wasn't ever going to feel it so we kind of drifted off. I could have had a second date with another guy that I felt a little chemistry with, but he was kind of shy and I was having to put way too much effort into things for my tastes so it wasn't worth it.
I haven't had any really unpleasant situations - I had one guy that it took a lot to make him go away though. We'd never met but he had my IM name and email. I closed him through the site after sending him a quick "Thanks but I don't think we are a good match." email. He emailed and IMed a couple of times before I blocked him. That was as bad as it has gotten for me, tho.
They have sent me over 300 matches in the time that I have been on there and I've met no one that I would consider dating long term. I think that while you are probably more likely to find somone that is more serious about relationships there, you are also like to find just as many ghosts and a fair share of players/guys out for sex too. A friend of mine dated a guy she met from there for several weeks and as soon as they slept together, he vanished.
So all in all, IMO, it is no better or worse than other sites, but it sure is more exepensive! So approach with caution. Hopefully you will have good luck.
I've joined two different times.
2 years ago, I joined and got one match. never met.
2 months ago, I joined, got a dozen matches, most of them were no longer active, some of them put me on hold for varying reasons, and the rest never replied to my contacts.
It's a very expensive site for such poor results.
Barb
I've tried eharmony several times. Seems like they keep sending me guys who are way too old or way too young. The younger ones always want kids, though I'm 44 and kids are a moot point for me. I can't say i've had bad experiences with OLD, whether eharmony or match.com. Just that I haven't met anyone with whom I feel any chemistry.
I'm not saying OLD doesn't work;just that these "love matches" seem to be the exception rather than the rule.
To be fair, I don't believe that I have ever given OLD a fair chance;seems like I have always done it to try to get over someone in real life that is unavailable in some way.
I think that if one decides to do this, we must have a thick skin and really be committed to meeting anyone who sounds promising, then going, "next" "next" until you meet someone you click with. Right now, I have not the inclination, energy, or desire.
The thing is, in my age group, I don't meet many available men, much less desirable single men. I don't meet them at work ( good ones all married), church (same) volunteer activities (all women). So OLD seems to be one of the few venues, at least in my age group. When you're younger, fate seems to step in more readily.
Muire
Pianoguy, the same thing that happened to you happened to my friend Rob! He filled out their loooooooooooooong personality profile, only to have them reject him too. That was not very good for his already flailing self-esteem! So you're not alone.
Flowergirl, I am at the end of my 3 month self-imposed trial with them, and I won't be renewing either. They consistenly sent me guys that were...umm...not attractive to me, too old, had kids when I specifically stated I DIDN'T want a guy who had kids, etc. They just didn't "get it".
I've talked to a total of about 3 guys, none of which ever followed through on a date. What a waste of three months.
buttercup_36w...
Apparently...eharmony has a little "comparison chart" that requires so many answers to MATCH the chart before eharmony matches people!
Frankly...I think most men would like to think that most women would
Pianoguy:
I agree about the age thing.
I've been on Eharmony before. Dated one guy that was very similar to me except his politics and then he decided because of the politics he couldn't date me (HJNTIM). Everyone else would never even start any communication with me. I eventually just deleted my profile. I had terrible luck with it.
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