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| Sat, 04-02-2005 - 9:07am |
Has anyone had good experiences with Eharmony? I just signed up for a one month subscription and started corresponding with someone that lives in my area. I want to hear about the good things;but, if people have bad experiences that would be helpful, too.
Thanks!
Christy

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I don't know all the exact details, but let's take
an example.
Claire Forlani is like 35-36...she's to die for,
probably has $20 million in cash, in the bank.
SHE can say no to 100 men, 1000 men, 10 000 men.
I'd ask you to look at your life and say if you can say the same.
And then, sure, you wonder why you are date-less.
condorski, you don't REALLY mean to say that because I am average everything (looks, money, body) that I AM IN NO POSITION TO SAY NO TO ANY GUY?
Puleese.
That's not what I mean at all.
What I mean to say is, what I have seen,
women want val kilmer/bill gates/jim carey, into one.
And no compromise.
What I'm saying is you girls get online, line up 3000 first dates,
get very arrogant, and forget very quickly you're not claire forlani,
and pass up a lot of really decent guys.
I see it a lot, not just with me.
This is what I've seen and experienced. I mean no direct
comment or insult to you.
The emphesis: no compromise.
Just to let you know this too:
I just realized you are from canada.
I've been there, quite a bit. Very pleasant.
The women there have a totally different view on men, than
the USA.
I shoulda realized this first, and shaped my reply.
Canada women are very, very pleasant and down to earth.
I have not one thing bad to say about them.
It's the USA girls I am talking about that want
val kilmer/bill gates/jim carey into one, with no compromise.
Really, if canada wasn't so cold I'd move there just because the
women are so down to earth.
Give me an f-ing break!!! I just got done reading a profile of a guy who said that unless a woman is a size 4 or under, she shouldn't send him an eamil. I have had dozens of guys on various websites close me, "politely" reject my wink or email because I'm not "their type". You see it time after time that a guy will put in some crappy comment of "no fat chicks please" or how they want someone "hot". Or I will have some fat, balding 45 year old man email me and expect that I will be overjoyed to respond because I must be desperate since I am on an OLD site.
I don't know why you are so bitter about this, but this thing is a two-way street buddy. For every woman you say is just out for a free dinner (which I am sure there are plenty, but none out here on this board) there is at least one guy that is out for sex only and when he gets it will dump the girl and one more that won't date anyone that is not an anorexic model and one more that while he is 35 or 45 or 55 will only wink and email women who are under the age of 30. You are making broad generalizations.
I totally agree with you.
Dating has become a war zone.
It should not be this way.
I readily agree the reason I can't get a decent
date is not because of the quality of women,
but because the quality of men that have ruined
women for decent relationships is so high.
"I totally agree with you.
Dating has become a war zone.
It should not be this way.
I readily agree the reason I can't get a decent
date is not because of the quality of women,
but because the quality of men that have ruined
women for decent relationships is so high."
VERY true!!
I really don't think it's too much to ask that a guy ACTUALLY READ MY PROFILE rather than just look at my picture and email me with a "Heyyyyy baby......" type line.
My other complaint is, I swear, EVERY DAMN TIME I get a "wink" or "tease" or whatever from a guy, It's one of two things:
1) The man is WELL over my age 34 limit (let's say--oh--about 44!!).
2) Anyone around my age (28-34) will be umm...not my preferred ethnicity.
On AmericanSingles, there has yet to be an exception to the rule.
I have several friends who have met men on eharmony, and one is getting married to someone she met on there. They met at the beginning of last year and are getting married in September. Everyone I have spoken to has really enjoyed the process. I have a profile on eharmony right now but am not corresponding with anyone because I haven't yet ponied up the cash to join. However, I have gotten many matches sent to me, and some of them seem promising. I have also closed some because they were not in the age range I was interested in or because upon reading their profiles, I didn't think we would be a match. But I am looking forward to actually paying for the service and starting to correspond with some people.
I am just getting back into the dating pool after the end of a five-year relationship (with a man I met on-line before on-line dating was the "in" thing), and I have been doing a lot of reading about the dos and don'ts of this whole thing. I think the consensus is that the pickier you are, the more likely that it won't work for you. One of my friends who met someone on eharmony decided that she would at least send the closed-ended questions to every match she got sent, figuring that her Prince Charming might be in disguise. Sure enough...she is dating someone that she initially wouldn't have responded to because he has a job that involves travel, and she was looking for someone with a more traditional 9-5 job. So she is glad that she took that chance!
Someone also said that more women are on there then men...but my friend who is getting married in September told me that when she was doing eharmony, she was getting a ton of matches, and her fiance did not get as many. So it's hard to say...it could be that fewer women matched him, but it could also be that fewer women are on there.
Good luck in your search!
I did the free eharmony thing, I think it was like
a week (?), I don't remember.
All of my matches had 'profile kept private'
or something like that.
Obviously, I didn't join the site.
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