eHarmony

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Registered: 12-27-2004
eHarmony
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Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:14pm
I have been on eHarmony since October and have not been at all satisfied...Is this anyone else's experience with this site??

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: vjs9019
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:33pm
I have actually met more guys from eH than from any other site. But there has been little to no chemistry with any of them. It is expensive and from what I have seen, the success rate is no higher there than on any of the other sites. I am not disatisfied, but I am not overwhelmed either. I think after this last go round, I will cancel my profile completely. I like the fact that they send matches to you so that at least you have that and it is not the "I have gotten no winks/emails for a month" thing like on match or yahoo, but it is not that much different than any other site IMO.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:40pm
I've had several matches but have never made it past stage 1 of communication. I close the matches if there are no pictures. I'm not really interested in a LDR romance. I have young children that I share custody with their dad. Relocating is not an option. So I have been left with few very matches. I'm unhappy that I spent all this money on their site with no results.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:43pm

I'm with you, Vexer. I don't think EHarmony makes any "better" a match than any other site.

The key to any OLD site, I think, is to use it to meet lots of prospects, then get out there and actually see what things are like IN PERSON.

Until you do that, it's really hard to tell what might be there in real life.

You have to actually be around someone to see what they like, and even if there's some chemistry if they turn out to have something that's a dealbreaker, well, the sooner you find that out the better.

Since eHarmony doesn't have as many people on it in my area, it's not a good site for just meeting lots of folks. Since it doesn't give you any "better" a match, and has fewer people, it certainly shouldn't be charging MORE than the other joints.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: vjs9019
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 11:51pm

While I like some of their concepts in locating a compatible mate, I don't like the fact that I have to pay good money to see what my matches look like.

Several months ago (and upon pressure from my Mother) I went ahead and filled out the lengthy questionnaire thinking it would be a while before any matches came through. Lo and behold, I got my first matches a few days later, but could already see that I was being matched up with people who had very different lifestyles than what I was seeking. A few of them had kids living at home.

Just glad I didn't have to pay to find out! The photo thing is one of the biggest issues for me with EHarmony.

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Registered: 05-31-2003
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 12:57am
I used eharmony last fall and was also greatly disappointed. Completed the very lengthy questionaire,filled out the preferences etc. and yes, I paid their very hefty membership fee.What I got in return was this; 7 matches of men that were 10 to 13 yrs my senior on the initial day of signing up. After waiting a month, I finally wrote their customer service dept. expressing my concerns. They wrote back suggesting that I change three of my preference settings ( re: people who drink, having more kids etc.)and that by doing so it would perhaps increase plausible matches . In any event, I thought okay I'll try their suggestions. Another 4 weeks followed and still no matches !
Yeah, this is a site that boasts "they have thousands of people signing up on a daily basis". I have told many of my single friends to avoid using that site unless of course they have alot of free money to throw out/give away.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 5:36am
eHarmony is gonna be the same damn people. How can it not be. Browse Match - then go to Yahoo or American Singles. See how 75% of the people on Match also show up on AS (or any other service). Just focus on getting good at one particular service.
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Registered: 08-09-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 6:33am

I just sent them an email to tell them what I think about them.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:03am
I also sent an e-mail to tell them what I think about them. They must be using those high fees to pay for all their advertising!
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Registered: 12-11-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:12am

contrary to what most are saying, eharmony isn't that bad. My only gripe is that they match from too wide of a physical distance. Half my matches are an hour away. But other than that, the matches match up pretty well, on paper.

I've met 2 people from there, had several go to open communication.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
In reply to: vjs9019
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 9:52am
I have met some nice people and am currently dating a very good match to me that I met through there. We seem to be pretty compatible so far.
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