Eharmony (and AdultFriendFinder)

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Registered: 05-15-2004
Eharmony (and AdultFriendFinder)
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Sun, 07-10-2005 - 2:44pm

In my time doing OLD, I have tried Match.com, Yahoo Personals, and Webdate. I have still yet to try EHarmony, mainly because of some of the things I have read about it here. It's definitely marketed differently than most of the other sites, in that they make it seem like the people on it might tend to be more serious about dating and relationships. I say that because I have read that not everyone that applies gets to be a member -- it "screens" for people with depression or those that might not be emotionally healthy enough to date.

Anyway, I'm skeptical. When I do a search on Match, I see pretty much the same women every time. Then I go to Yahoo and I see those same women again (I'm sure they think the same about me). I guess I'm running out of online options. So, for those of you that tried EHarmony, does it at least seem to have some different faces than the other sites? I understand that even if that's the case in your area, it might not apply to mine, but it would at least indicate some promise.

BTW, on a side note, I was *seriously* considering trying "AdultFriendFinder.com". I know, it seems really bad, but I actually entered a free profile out there out of curiosity (no name or photo or ANYTHING that would identify me, of course), and over a few months I get an amazing amount of hits from women in my area, which is not the case on the regular dating sites. I never replied to any of them, but I started wondering, maybe I could actually date a couple of women and say up front I'm looking for a LTR, not just one night sex. What do you all think? Bad idea? I have reservations about: 1) The type of woman I might find on a site like this -and- 2) I would never want ANYONE I know personally to know I was on that type of site, it's just not a good idea, would you agree?

Thanks for the input.

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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:18pm
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:29pm

I think that as a guy you would have a good chance on eharmony and it is worth a try.

The whole process is enlightening for dating - it teaches you good communication skills, gives excellent examples of questions and conversation starters and urges you to develop a list of 10 can't stands and 10 must haves.

I tried eharmony for over a year and just didn't have luck. While the applicants for the most part had things in common, their life situations did not fit mine at all.

For example - divorced 3 times and a workaholic with 2 small children from 2 different marriages, guy who wants to travel the world and wants me to leave my child with a nanny for several weeks at a time (also gave very sloppy wine kiss - YUCK) and another man with 2 small children who is looking for a mother for them - not a romantic match.

I think that most fun spontaneous men would never spend the time to answer 500 questions. But women would - we all love that sort of thing. So, Eric, go for it - don't pay unless you find someone who is "pay worthy" - I think they are offering a summer special so maybe if you do find someone who is of quality then you will get a good deal!!

Good luck and keep us posted.

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:38pm
LOL!! Now you guys have done it; I can't wait to go home and check out AFF. From your descriptions, I don't dare do it at work. The last thing I need is a very special session with HR.


Edited 7/11/2005 8:24 pm ET ET by icarrie141
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:40pm

No, you definitely don't want to log on to that site at work!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Mon, 07-11-2005 - 1:49pm
No No!! Not at work Carrie! Be prepared for an eye opening experience...possibly even hilarious in some instances. LOL

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