eharmony and non-subscribers
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| Sat, 05-13-2006 - 11:53am |
I had avoided e-harmony because I am not looking for "the love of my life" and didn't want to be misleading. However I decided to take the personality test for fun (and to see if I'd like to try this later on). I got matched with a couple of guys, one of whom I think is a definite possibility. I just got the message that this guy has "requested communication" or whatever the formula is.
I am not sure if I want to join e-harmony, but this guy sounds good. My question here is if it is reasonable to assume that this guy is an e-harmony "paying member" who will be available to communicate or if this guy could be like me, someone who has just filled out the profile while shopping around.
In other words, I don't want to be lured on e-harmony with promises of possible matches that don't really materialize because the guys aren't really signed up for e-harmony.
So can anyone who has been on e-harmony for a while give me the low-down on how many of the "matches" are with people who aren't paying subscribers?

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As a non-subscriber, if I attempt ANY communication, it asks me to subscribe. Therefore, if a match is requesting communication, I'd assume that he IS a subscriber.
Then again, you can do like me & sneak your email address in one of the text boxes for a while until they catch it. It usually takes them months to audit your account for that.
I guess my question was whether "a member has requested communication" really meant that someone had looked at my profile and requested communication or if they just used that to get you hooked.
I've been on match.com for two or three months, and on their competition to e-harmony, Chemistry.com (because match.com people are getting Chemistry free while they build up the site) for almost two months. In neither site did my first two matches want instant contact with me. So I am skeptical.
Also, one of the guys who wanted contact with me is a guy that began his profile on chemistry.com but didn't complete it. I had replied to him positively on chemistry, but there has been no response. So I am not in a hurry to join e-harmony to mske contact with a match that isn't really there.
It could be he just gave up on chemistry and decided to keep working only with e-harmony. Or it could be that e-harmony has some set up where your first matches "request the first step" automatically.
I just want to get an idea before I spring for the membership. If only they would hurry up and offer me a discount... ;)
I am on eharmony and I believe there are several matches who are not subscribers. I can't prove it, but there are many who never respond at all, or ghost when they are in one of the initial communication stages.
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Well, I am not a paying subscriber and I have been matched with two guys who, if they are paying subscribers and have indeed asked for "communication" may end up feeling that I am ghosting.
What I'm trying to ensure is that these two guys are indeed paying subscribers who will continue the communication process if I were to join. If they are for real, then I have had a better response on e-harmony than on the other online sites I belong to and maybe I should check it out.
It's a lot of money when I am still bound to match.com until September. :(
Have you had good luck on e-harmony?
El
Well, you might get matches who are not subscribers (and there is not much we can do about it); however, if a "match requests communication", that will mean that somebody saw your profile (which was sent to them as a maatch), and send you questions. I didn't respond to the first match that requested communication with me, so I can't tell you how things work; however, if a website actually has "fake people" on it, that would be a very problemtatic behavior (fraud?)... I don't believe they do that. True, when I put up a profile, I got several requests for communication -- this is not a ploy: what happens on eharmony is that, they send your profile (when you first put it up) to people (who they say are a good match for you; and you are respectively their good match), so as a newbie you get more responses, nothing unusual about that...
Thanks. I didn't think they had "fake people" in the sense that they invented profiles. What seemed possible is that, since the "questions" are pretty much automated, they could perhaps have set it up so that non-subscribers could "ask" the questions without really asking. Anyway, it's good to know that all two of my possibles are paying members.
This still doesn't convince me that I want to pay for membership. If there were more than two "possibles" perhaps... ;)
Well eharmony has a 3 months for the 1 month price if you go to dealtakers.com and get the coupon code.
If you received a request for communication the guy is a paying member, you can't send out a request to communicate unless you are.
Thanks, That's what I wanted to know.
Now to decide whether the chance to meet these two guys is worth $60-$120!
El
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