eharmony and non-subscribers
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| Sat, 05-13-2006 - 11:53am |
I had avoided e-harmony because I am not looking for "the love of my life" and didn't want to be misleading. However I decided to take the personality test for fun (and to see if I'd like to try this later on). I got matched with a couple of guys, one of whom I think is a definite possibility. I just got the message that this guy has "requested communication" or whatever the formula is.
I am not sure if I want to join e-harmony, but this guy sounds good. My question here is if it is reasonable to assume that this guy is an e-harmony "paying member" who will be available to communicate or if this guy could be like me, someone who has just filled out the profile while shopping around.
In other words, I don't want to be lured on e-harmony with promises of possible matches that don't really materialize because the guys aren't really signed up for e-harmony.
So can anyone who has been on e-harmony for a while give me the low-down on how many of the "matches" are with people who aren't paying subscribers?

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I will check out dealtakers.com, thanks. If they don't ask too many nosy questions (I don't need to get profiled for yet one MORE marketing scheme) that might be the solution.
El
I guess it depends on what you call good luck....lol. I have wasted a lot less time on riff raff than other places, and the 2 gentlemen that I have met really were who the profiles said they were. I dated one of them for 2 weeks last summer, and only had a first meet with the other. Both seemed to possibly have had unfinished emotional business, but they were very nice, perhaps not ready to deal with the likes of me. A friend has pointed out to me that my straight forward personality may be intimidating to some men. I guess that won't happen when/if it's the right one!Good luck with your decision.
E
Yeah, I have a "straightforward personality" too, which here in the South can be a real problem. But it's a bad idea to pretend to be someone I am not, so I just deal with being thought "rude" and "unladylike."
I'm undecided about E-Harmony. It's a lot of money.
Another question: If my picture wasn't visible when the guys who have indicated interest in me first saw my profile, will they be able to see it now that I have posted the pictures?
I really feel better about guys seeing my picture from the first and deciding whether they want to meet me based on that. But these e-harmony matches happened so fast that I hadn't even posted a picture!
El
Well the one thing I liked about eharmony over any place else was that not just ANYONE was using it, I really don't like match.com, I met the most "players" when I used that service, I never used yahoo so I can't really comment on that and I just really liked the overall feel of eharmony due to not having someone just search for you and having anyone on the internet looking at you, you have to go through their painstaking process just to get on there. LOL
It is pricey but with the 3 months for the price of one deal it's not as bad. that's where the dealtakers coupon comes in you get 3 months for like 60 bucks.
Thanks Sally,
I went ahead and used the code from dealtakers and am now subscribed on e-harmony for three months. To get the code, by the way, you had to look for it in the message board area. The only easily accessible coupons were for only $10 off, but someone on the message board posted the others.
So far I have been impressed with e-harmony because they immediately matched me with someone (two someones!) at my educational level, who like some of the same things I do, and who don't seem obsessed with thin and young. Match.com keeps sending me matches that never finished college, matches that want thin women only, etc. YOu'd think their computer software could winnow out the "must haves/can't haves" and save us all a lot of hassle.
At my age (I am fifty) I don't expect the men to be lining up outside my door (or outside my modem) but I'd like a chance to meet a few nice guys. The way I figure it is if I get/average a date (just a meet-and-greet is fine) a month on each service, then I am getting my money's worth. So far, Match has not been giving me my money's worth. I hope e-harmony does.
Thanks again!
El
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