eHarmony first email

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Registered: 04-09-2008
eHarmony first email
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Wed, 12-13-2006 - 4:01pm

I got to the open stage with a guy from eHarmony today. He initiated the open...His first email says this:

"can you give me your mesenger,or your phone, to have more direct comunication, i might go this weekend to (name of city)"

THATS his first email to me, nothing else, just that, no signature or salutation. 'What a way to set the tone, huh? He doesn't live anywhere near me-- He lives across the US.

Would you respond to this?

I'm about to close down this match unless any of you think I have something to work with here. I don't necessarily give my freggin messenger or phone to ppl I email with nicely for days. Should I let him know we can have a decent email or just close it down?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 4:08pm

I wouldn't respond because I wouldn't want to email someone who lives across the country from me, not so much because of that particular email.

Why are you interested in talking with this guy if he doesn't live near you?

Sheri

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 4:38pm
He seemed interesting up till now. I'm willing to entertain the idea that a good relationship can be formed long distance, although that is not ideal. I don't want to limit myself by only talking to people in my city even though it's my preference to date on a regular basis someone who actually lives here. I know this choice isn't for everyone. Also, he wrote in his profile that he's willing to relocate.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:15pm

Ok, fair enough. In that case, go with your gut--if his email rubs you the wrong way, then you have my permission to say next ;-) (not that you need it, I'm just being facetious).

Sheri

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 12-13-2006 - 7:30pm

Congrats on your first Open Communcation (I'm surprised how few of my eharmony matches actually make it there for various reasons!)


The first open communication I ever received

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 11:51am

Hi Lola,
Sorry I just now saw your message! This isn't my first time on eharmony. I've been doing it off and on for a couple years. I meant that email was my first ever from that particular guy. (His email just seemed dry and too 'in a hurry'...it didn't really give me a good impression of him.)

I probably won't renew my subscription. I'm not impressed with the matching system either and that new flexible matching just clutters up my account with tons of profiles I would have no interest in. I have like 70% flex-match ppl who all have a characteristic I specifically said I did not want. I wonder if there's a way to turn off flexible matching?? It defeats the whole point of doing eharmony to get all those random 'flexible' matches. KWIM? I want my money back..lol :-)
Devorah

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Registered: 06-26-2003
Sun, 12-17-2006 - 6:27pm
My eHarmony membership just lapsed too. I also wasn't too impressed with my matches. One match they sent me where the list of "things you and he have in common" included "politics". Only problem is I stated I am very liberal (and that it's important to me) and he had stated that he's extremely conservative (and it's important to him). He closed out the match so fast it was funny. I finally decided I would prefer to pick my own matches. I don't believe in their "patented matching system".