eHarmony has redone their website

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Registered: 10-17-2002
eHarmony has redone their website
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:14pm
And I am not sure I like it! It may just take some getting used to. High level it looks like it allows you more sorting functionality so you can sort your matches by what stage of communication you are in, gives you information on where the other person is if they have not replied to you yet (e.g., This person is Viewing your Questions) and gives you much better info on your closed matches which were all willy-nilly before with absolutely no order and sometimes you couldn't even see info about them. I'll have to experiment a little tonight and see how it goes but it is VERY different so far.

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:41pm
I think they need to reduce their prices.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:47pm
You got that right!

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 6:29pm

I would love to hear a short 1 or 2 paragraph descripition of the eHarmony process. From reading messages it seems like you fill out a lengthy questionare and then proceed through several steps of emailing people until at a certain later step you actually see their picture.

It seems this might be designed to ward off ghosting and find tighter matches. I just cannot see myself going several emails without seeing a photo. I'd also be really really hesitant to get on there and be matched up with the same people I'd seen online at Match.

Did I capture the essence of how this works - or are their more details. It sort of seems like eHarmony was the trendy site of the moment for a while.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 6:56pm

Well, no not really. Each person decides at which stage of communication they want to display their photo. I put mine as available right from the beginning b/c 1) if they don't like my appearance, they might as well just stop before it gets started and 2) if someone were to close me once they got my picture, I think that would ping a little more than if it is from the start (it can be any number of reasons from the start, not what I look like!). I really hate it when someone either doesn't have a picture or doesn't make it available right away because I really do like to see what they look like. My original oompa loompa didn't post his picture right off and I guess with good reason since he really did look like an oompa loompa. I just had to close him after the picture. It was too much.

But yes, you fill out a questionnaire and they send you matches based on your answers and who they view as compatible with you. You start with several multiple choice questions but you can also do a free form answer to any question. There are a list of questions you can choose from to have your match answer. Once you exchange the multiple choice, you move to the Must Have's/Can't Stands which are a list of things that you "Must Have" or "Can't Stand" in a relationship partner (I usually read these really quickly for red flags but don't pay TOO much attention). After that, you move to the Open Ended Questions where you can select from a list or make up your own 3 questions for your match to answer. After that, you get to double-blind email (Open Communication) on the site. Once you get to OC, you can exchange email addresses and communicate off the site.

You have the option to skip all the steps and "Fast Track" someone which gets you right to OC. I haven't done that b/c I kind of like some of the steps. You can filter quite a few red flags and learn a lot from the process. But yes, it is time consuming and at times annoying. I usually hate the Open Ended Questions (I'll post some examples of how stupid and cheesy they can be) and take a while to answer those.

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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:06pm
lg, the only good thing about e-harmony is that people can't freely browse your profile. E-harmony sends it out to other subscribers. That said, I believe their 29 dimensional match is a bunch of marketing junk because I have done two questionnaires on two different occasions and the results came out totally different however they sent me the same exact matches. Hmm, makes me wonder - what 29 points do they use?
Match offers virtually the same thing for half the price.
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Registered: 01-31-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:10pm
Oh, one more thing in my opinion the crowd on e-harmony is more of a feelings type people, not that there is anything wrong with it. Just thought I would mention this.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:28pm

Strangely enough, while some sites like Yahoo will pull your profile for approval when you edit the text...

and other sites like Match strip email@address.com from your profile or messages...

You can put your email@address.com right in the text of your eHarmony profile. Vewwy intewesting, eh?

(Shhhhh! don't spread the word too far or someone at eH will catch on!)

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:42pm
Really? I didn't know that. I guess it makes sense though. There is no real editing of profiles on their site - maybe they figure they have screened you enough? LOL. Well, I have to say that I am not sure I would put my email on my profile at eH. I kind of like the anonymity you have at first - there is no way to contact you except through the regular lines of communication.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 8:56pm

What can a non-member do on eHarmony?

What can a member do on eHarmony?

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 9:22pm
A non-member can do nothing.
Linda

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