either no men or many men

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Registered: 03-25-2003
either no men or many men
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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 7:53am

ok, here it goes:

Guy #1 Nick- who says he's been sick (lol that rhymes)- has still not called me yet despite getting a message from him late last night saying that he'll call. Not impressed... but still i will give him a chance if he does call (if ever).

Guy #2 Derek, the one who didn't pay for the coffee (lol)- got a message from him (thought I got rid of him) asking me how I'm doing. Have to "get rid of him properly"... not interested in him romantically.

Guy #3 Darren- we exchanged an email and he gave me his number... asked me to met up with him at the beach- NO way I'm meeting some guy for the first time in my bikini.

Guy #4 Matt- sounds like a very nice genuine English guy... there could be something there... although not sure if I like his pic, other than that everything else sounds good. He is overseas at the moment on a business trip. I'm sure we'll meet up once he's back.

Guy #5 Tod- met him at speed dating the other day. He is asking me out for drinks or dinner! I really didn't expect that... I'm not sure if I really want to go to dinner with him... coffee might be better... I'm kind of undecided... we had a good conversation... Don't think he is really my type... but I only met him for 8 minutes.

Ok so here I am... from no guy to 5 guys all of a sudden! It feels kind of good... but then now I have to choose... ahhhh

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 9:18am

Why do you have to choose at this point? Meet them (cast off didn't-pay-for-coffee-guy). You're not in a relationship with any of these people. You're not beholden to them in any way. Meet, enjoy and see where it goes. If you're feeling more interest in one over another then whittle it down. The on-line thing is about establishing contact with other singles for the purpose of seeing if you'd like to date. Just because you've emailed or spoken on the phone doesn't mean you have to forsake all others from meeting you. I mean you could meet and mutually agree not to pursue anything further. In the meantime you will have closed the door on other possibilities.


Just my 2 cents.


Solazzo

Solazzo
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 9:33am
Good for you, it's a numbers game.
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Registered: 05-12-2005
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 9:33am
Why choose, you should meet with all of them and see what happens.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 9:50pm

yep you guys are right... and that's what I'm going to do. Meet them all and then seen. Although I really enjoy emailing one particular one. Oh yeah... there is a #6 now... Greg from speed dating and he wants to meet up too. cool hey! I can't believe it... few days ago I felt like no one would want to go out with me... lol.

Well Tod (speed date) asked me out to drinks or dinner. I reckon dinner would be a bit too full on so I said ok to drinks. Do you think it is safer to meet at there rather than him picking me up from home (I live on my own)?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 10:28pm
ABSO-FRICKIN-LUTELY!!! NEVER EVER EVER let a first meet pick you up at your house! You met this guy for 8 minutes and have talked on the phone a little. You know nothing about him as a person other than what he has let you know to this point. #1 Cardinal Rule about OLD (or speed dating, blind dating, meeting someone you don't know from any other serial killer on the street) - Meet them in a public place and drive yourself or provide your own transportation. Cardinal rule #2 - let someone know where you are going to be.

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