Email for Later?

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Email for Later?
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Fri, 12-29-2006 - 9:52pm

Hi Ladies - I've posted here in the past under a different ID, and then someone commented about how much info you could find just searching on your ID and I changed mine right away when I saw all my internet postings come up!

So anyway, here's my question:

I had a guy from Yahoo Personals contact me and then we lost touch for a couple of weeks. He started emailing me again and mentioned he was taking his profile down and he was currently pursuing a 2nd date with someone but wanted to exchange email addresses in case we wanted to contact each other later.

I was kind of put off by this - like I was being asked to get in line or something. What do you think?

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 12-29-2006 - 10:34pm
I agree - it's like he's saying "hey stick around so if this doesn't work out, I'll take you as my second choice". And anyone that takes down their profile before a SECOND data? BAD NEWS.

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 9:20am

Hi there,

I think what he said was perfectly ok. He probably started talking to date #2 girl at the same time he started talking to you, and he's being upfront with you about that. He had gotten to the point where he went out with her, but after just one date, as we all know, he's not sure where it will go. So, I know what you mean, it does seem somewhat off-putting, but perhaps this is the nature of OLD. You meet a lot of people in a short time span, and it can be somewhat awkward to manage, especially if you only want to date one person at a time! :) Maybe his subscription is expiring and he doesn't want to lose contact with you completely (not sure if you were talking to him only through your yahoo accounts, or if you had exchanged your regular e-mail addresses.)

I hope that gives you a different perspective.

Lil Kitty

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 1:14pm

I agree with little kitty.


I have done the serial dating where you set up a series of dates in one week or weekend - you know meeting 3-5 different people out and trust me its exhausting and the fun wears thin very quickly.


Now I'm more selective.

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 10:36pm
I appreciate the feedback. I kind of had come to the conclusion it was okay and if I was available if he contacted me I'd want to meet him. I am new to dating so I wasn't sure and asked a couple friends if I should go with my feeling of being put off and they mentioned he sounded like a player. So now I know others think maybe not which makes me feel better about considering meeting him if he contacted me. He kind of still keeps in touch and I do email him back so maybe he will want to meet sometime.