email from "new guy"

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Registered: 07-24-2004
email from "new guy"
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Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:34pm

There is a new guy on yahoo that has contacted me.

Linda
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:54pm
maybe he's just nervous. You could (in a flirty way) say "well, I already read that stuff tell me more!!" But, you sound alittle like me in the way we tend to overanalyze everything. Try and get some more info from him first.
so is he saying he'll never take you to dinner!!!???lol
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 12:56pm

Hi Linda,

No, I don't think you over-think, I do believe we have all 'sharpened out wits' and that is a Good thing! :)

He might be shotgunning, or he might not be sure if you read his profile, and wants to get the 4-1-1 in to you. But...I have found that when they say "I am not (fill in blank)..." then they really ARE just that they So want to avoid being. How about "I don't even know what a Player is, but I am sure I do not want to be One" Awwww, man, "gimme somethin' I can Use"..as JoDee Messina says!

No reason not to go out with him if you like some good things about him. Just keep your antannae up where they belong!

Good luck, and we need details!

truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 1:31pm
i think you should try phone - and see how he is. If you still are unsure, then drop him. He ain't worth it. sometimes people, esp men, are bad at communicating via email. So, give him a try on the phone. good luck!
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 03-01-2005 - 1:36pm

Sheesh. If he's not looking for someone to have sex with, and he's not looking for someone to go out to dinner with, what IS he looking for? Those are the two main things we get from dating, aren't they? LOL

I think he might be figuring that since OLD is such a struggle at times, maybe it's not worth it for him to type something new up and it's just easier to repost most of his profile instead of actually writing a new email. We've probably all felt like this at one point or another about OLD, no?

It's a tad insulting to you, of course, that he doesn't think you're worth knocking out an actual chatty email instead of just going to the cut-and-paste route. But it's also understandable.

I'd say give him another chance, see how it goes, and if he continues to not thrill you or even interest you, just move on. A short call would be good, another email or two might work as well.

Good luck!