Email/Telephone Etiquette on OLD

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Email/Telephone Etiquette on OLD
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Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:15pm

Gee, I'm full of questions today....

Here is another issue......I usually do most of my online seeking or sending emails during the day from work! When I get home, check homework, dinner, get my son ready for bed, the LAST thing I want to do is jump online and have a chat. So, the next day I'm at work I'll respond and then may here from the guy via email 2-3 days later. For most men (or the ones I've exchanged emails with) they are online in the evening (mainly Sunday evenings) whereas I'm online during the day.

Well the last few times I received an email, I usually send a response such as this....

"Since emailing is very impersonal and we are online at different times, in an attempt to make this process go a bit more efficiently, give me a call at ________________. Best time to reach me during the week is after 7:30 pm and prefer no calls after 10:30 pm. Of course, weekends I'm more flexible until 10:30 pm."

I'll get a reply stating, "thanks would prefer this mode of communication and will call", but guess what -- the guy never calls, or in a few instances it may be several weeks before he does call and of course, I have to remember who he is or in a round about way say something like "so how did you come up with your screen name" so I can remember who he is! LOL

Anyone else have these online issues; and do you provide your number or just go with the once a week email until the guy gives his number??

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 8:17pm

Some people feel more comfortable with 2-3 emails before a phone call. To be honest with you, you sound more like project supervisor by using the words "process", "efficiently" and "impersonal" than potential girlfriend. As a possible date, I'd be wondering how many others have received the identical email.

Perhaps you should ask whether these men would like to communicate be phone before demanding they call you. Also, ask whether they would prefer you to call them. Then set up a specific time for them to call you or you to call them so you know to be home and ready to receive a phone call.

Afterall, you wouldn't tell a client, "Hey, call whenever you want.".

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 8:49pm

I have to remember who he is or in a round about way say something like "so how did you come up with your screen name" so I can remember who he is! LOL


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 6:57am
I'm with Chamey and Jen... the email is a bit too impersonal. Also, personally (haha there's a pun in there somewhere), a guy who gives me his number so quickly turns me off. I much prefer men who ask if we can move to the phone and then we exchange numbers. At least that way, I have involvement in the process.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2005
Thu, 11-17-2005 - 2:44pm

I actually let the guy take it too that level.

CL-Truewild1969

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