Etiquette

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Etiquette
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Sat, 11-11-2006 - 1:38am

There's been some discussion about "the rules" on this board, so I wanted to run something by you guys to see if I broke any:

Met a guy on myspace. We connected over email and decided to talk. He called me and we spoke for about half an hour before my phone went dead - ack, that's the second time that has happened to me on a first conversation w/OLD! But we continued to talk via email after that and he wanted to know if I had Yahoo for IM. I said no and told him I was going to bed. I said "It was nice talking to you." He responded: "You too beautiful. Goodnight." So far so good.

He emailed me a few times the next day, but it wasn't anything I felt that I needed to respond to, so I didn't (plus I'm a little weary of the fact that he kept asking me to send him a picture of my butt..he may have been joking because that is the only bad thing I got from him and it contradicts everything else I get from him..but still, I wasn't quick to respond the next day) So, the day after that he send me a message while I was signed on and said "hey beautiful, where have you been?" So we started talking via myspace email and he asked about a date (this is the 4th time he mentioned a date in the week we had been talking - I kept avoiding answering). I asked what he had in mind and he said Lunch on saturday and set up the time and place. I told him that I have tentative plans with a friend and asked if I could call him tonight (Friday) to let him know for sure. He didn't respond to that.

Then today (Friday) I remembered that he said he would be working. So I sent him another email to tell him that it looked like I would be able to make it Saturday, but I didn't know his schedule so could he give me a call if he gets a chance tonight? I also said that if he doesn't get the chance I would just touch base with him tomorrow. Then I emailed him AGAIN because I just got my new cell phone and he had asked me the night before if I had a cell phone. So now that I had the phone I wanted to give him the number so that if he did call I wouldn't miss him. Still no response, but then he hasn't been online all day, either.

Now here is the dilemma, I went ahead and made plans with my friend for the time I was supposed to meet him because he hasn't responded to all three of my emails. But what if he just assumes I'm going to meet him at the designated place? And do I dare call him tomorrow like I said, or should I just take this as a brush off? Ugh - I don't want to stand him up, but I don't want to bug him, either.

What to do??? Have I broken the rules and ruined this thing?

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Ok...edited to add that I just thought to check the status and he hasn't even read the last 2 emails! So he's probably working. But he did read the email where I asked if I could call him tomorrow (which is now today). Maybe he didn't see it as a question, but as me just telling him I would call? And I didn't call!! Oh crap.




Edited 11/11/2006 1:52 am ET by lostbee4
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In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 6:41am

I don't think you broke any rules, but I do think the communication has not been completely clear. Going forward, if you want a date with the guy and he asks, just pick a time when you are definitely free so there's no crossed messages.


Now, as for this guy... I think if he were interested, he'd have called by now. I also think that any person who asks for a picture of your butt within days of meeting is not a person worth meeting. I used to give the guys who joked around sexually or asked for strange pictures the benefit of the doubt. But after doing this for awhile, I realized that if they are asking for butt pictures before we even meet, it tends to go downhill from there.


Maybe the reason you were hesitant to commit to anything was because your gut is saying that something isn't right? Something to wonder... ;o)

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In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 11:41am

I say ding him for calling you "beautiful", that's too cheesy for words, IMO ;-).

And if not for that, then definitely for asking for the butt pics.

But to answer your question, no, you did not have a firm date since you said you would call him to confirm once you knew about your plans with your friend.

Sheri

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Registered: 04-09-2008
In reply to: lostbee4
Sat, 11-11-2006 - 12:42pm
Honestly, he's probably busy talking to the girls who did do what he wanted and sent a pic of their butt. I would have been more concerned about *his* etiquette and the rules he's broken rather than yours!
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In reply to: lostbee4
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 9:42am

I've read the post about the bad date, so I know how this one turned out, but I just wanted to reiterate that when they ask for weird pictures, that's usually a bad sign.

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