Etiquette for removing profile ?

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Registered: 06-18-2007
Etiquette for removing profile ?
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Sun, 05-02-2010 - 5:03pm
I've had my profile online for about 3 months and after a few first dates, I've begun dating someone exclusively -- we had "the talk". Now comes the question, when to remove the profile? I've not removed mine and I see his is still posted as well. I'm not wanting to date anyone else right now and have been answering any emails I've gotten in the past week or so from others - since our exclusive discussion - explaining that I am currently dating someone exclusively. I wonder if I'm false advertisting. But at the same time, I don't want to remove my profile before he does, as I don't want to scare him off - I know, it's stupid but yet, men can be scared of soooo easily.
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Registered: 06-18-2007
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 9:22am

I've hidden my profile and have yet to mention it to him. We're planning on seeing each other this week. I guess I'm a little apprehensive about talking about being exclusive again, after already discussing it. I don't want to be beating a dead horse.

And you are absolutely right - I should take his decision to be exclusive with a grain of salt until I get to know him better. I really don't know him, he's still a "stranger", for all intents and purposes.

For me, I personally didn't want to leave mine up there, as you said, it's false advertising. I feel much better with it not being there, even if he doesn't take his down. I didn't like having to email guys to tell them I was now seeing someone exclusively.

I want this relationship to progress naturally, and not rush into anything, but at the same time, I have to be true to myself.

Never give all the heart, for love...
If someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-04-2010 - 1:00am

To me, the exclusivity talk is incomplete without a discussion of and agreement to remove your profiles.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 05-03-2010 - 12:02pm
If you had already had the exclusive talk, I can't see why you wouldn't immediately (both) hide your profiles. You have to waste your time sending guys emails that you are dating someone (because you don't want to be rude and just ignore those guys) but then you are wasting their time keeping your profile there when you have no intention of dating them. So just tell your BF "Oh I hid my profile because I didn't want guys still emailing me." Then you aren't demanding that he does it too. If you already had the talk, why do you think that it would scare him off?