Ever Make a Good Friend Online?

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Ever Make a Good Friend Online?
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:45am

I was just talking to a guy I met online. He was talking about how he and this girl he was dating and met online hang out and became good friends after they realized they weren't a good romantic match.

I envy this. I've met plenty of guys online (and off) that I've love to stay friends with, but they've made it obvious that when it's over, its over and they don't want to remain friends.

Has anyone else made a friend from OLD?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:11pm
Yes and no. The very first guy I met online in Sept 2003 and I have kinda stayed in touch. We both knew we weren't "it" for each other but from time to time he'll email me or I'll send him a wink or we'll IM each other on Yahoo. He tells me about women he's trying to date and I tell what going on with me. Another guy I met last August and I stay in touch. That started out as a "hanging with the guys" type thing (going to happy hour, etc). We send emails about 1 a week or so. Just to keep in touch. I don't think there was any romance between us but we get along well. So I wouldn't say either of these guys are a 'really good' friend but it's nice that they didn't ghost!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:25pm

Yes, I have two guy friends I met through OLD. In both cases, we went out a couple times but things didn't work out romantically and we were able to make the transition to being friends.

There's a guy I've gone out with a couple times where I'm hoping the same thing will happen. I *like* him but I'm not attracted to him. I'm hoping he will be ok with that because I really enjoy his company, but it's up to him, of course.

Sheri

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 12:41pm
oh, I totally forgot about this guy that I went out with once last Spring...no sparks on my side what-so-ever. But he really liked me and I agreed we could be friends. He started dating someone else and ended up moving in with her (wayyyy too soon) but he would email me or call and talk about his relationship. And I actually enjoyed talking with him about guy stuff/problems. He came over the night before Mothers Day and gave me a bottle of really expensive perfume and I asked him if "Mary" knew where he was and he said no. Then in an email to me he asked if I wear high heels, and I said not really. Then he asked if he bought me some would I wear them with just undies and let him take pictures of me!!!! WTF! I was totally shocked! I wrote back that he had crossed the line and to never contact me again. (I also forwarded that email to his girlfriend!!) Needless to say, they're not together. So much for trying to be friends with that one! LOL
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:17pm

Yes, I've made a couple of pretty good friends via OLD, generally someone where we went out a few times and even though we got along well, we just didn't have that spark you need for a romantic relationship.

Sometimes these friendships have lasted, sometimes they fade away a bit, but all friendships are like that to some extent, I think.

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 1:48pm
I met a guy about two years ago through Match and we dated for about 6 months. During that time he drove me crazy because he was being emotionally un-available. He was still hung up on his ex at that time. So I proceeded to put my profile on Yahoo, where I met my now husband. During that time, I lost my job but stayed in touch with my Match guy and he ended up getting me a job with his company. We stayed friends throughout and I found out recently that he is single again and emailed me asking me to leave my husband and run away with him to Vegas (joking of course).
So yes - I made a good friend and a business contact to boot! He's the best so if there are any ladies looking to date a great guy in the Phoenix, AZ area - I'd gladly vouch for him! :)
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 2:40pm

Hey Maryanne, my best friend lives in Phoenix and she's single ;) I'd hate it for it to be that easy for her to find a great guy, though LOL Gosh, that's awful of me, huh? hehe

Holly

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:13pm
LOL! Well if she is interested, I could get his profile and forward it to you two.....He is 40 yrs old but he looks way younger. He's got all of his hair and none of it is gray. What's up with that? (hee hee).
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Registered: 08-27-2004
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 3:23pm

hehehe....that's perfect, she just turned 41 last month. Now, if he happens to be tall, then he'd be perfect for her ;) See, I'm making this way too easy for her. She is not proactive at all in finding anyone, but I guess if a great guy falls in her lap, then good for her :) If you want, email me off board, and I can give you more info on her. See you at the wedding. haha

Holly

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Registered: 05-22-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:01pm

Yes, I made two - one that I am pretty good friends with now (we chat weekly or more) and another that I am casual friends with (we chat maybe once a month or so).

Some men are open to being friends and others are not I find.

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 11:44am

LOL! Nice email. How tall is tall? He's 5' 11" maybe closer to 6 feet. If that's not tall enough then I won't send you his profile, but if that's okay - then I'll email you off board. I might want to add that the last two people I hooked up have been married for over ten years and they have two beautiful children.

FYI - Don't have the wedding during the summer, it's way too hot here in Phoenix (LOL)!

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