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| Mon, 10-30-2006 - 10:35am |
So i have a date tonight with a VERY cute guy. So far I think he's been the cutest to contact me. Now yes I KNOW that sounds shallow...but I think everyone can agree that looks are important...also this guy is getting his masters from Harvard...so he's obviously smart.
I just feel like this will be a let down though ): as in too good to be true. I think i said before that he probably gets lots of attention...i think he's sorta new to the area, he said he was looking to meet new people. We had emailed, then yesterday i received an email from him asking me if i wanted to go out that night then he gave me his cell #. I called him and told him i couldnt do last nigth, but was he around any other nights. He said how about tonight. I said sure. He told me to call him when i get out of work...so i'm going to (:
Has anyone experienced anything like this? going on a date that seems too good to be true...and it is?

Yes, lots of times. That's why I've learned to keep my expectations very low. I hope for the best, but I don't expect it, if that makes any sense.
Sheri
"Has anyone experienced anything like this? going on a date that seems too good to be true...and it is?"
Oh yeah! The guy I'm dating right now! He is attractive, likes to bike, is extrememly smart, easy going, funny, nice, down to earth, and close to his family... those are main things I'm looking for and he's got them all. He seems too good to be true but so far he has been acting very into me. I haven't gotten any signs from him that he's losing interest. I'm kind of like you, though, I feel like the whole thing may be a let down pretty soon for whatever reason. Oh well, I'm enjoying it while it lasts, and you should, too!
Have fun tonight! Let us know if he is as cute in person as his pics!
thanks, it is definitely hard to keep expectations low...but it's hard...especially when something seems good and you've had some bad luck with dates as of late (:
I will keep you informed as to whether he's as cute in his pics in real life...i have a feeling he is though...he has several up close shots of himself...and he looks like he could pretty much be an abecrombie model in all of them...maybe he's a jerk? ahh see, i'm already setting myself up.
well I had the 'meeting' last night and i can tell you that i'm a lot less excited now than i was yesterday. He looked like his pictures, was very nice, smart etc...but he is just here for grad school then is going home to his country. He also said he wants to live in S. America for a year to learn spanish right after school...is doing a 4 month internship this summer in Kuwait and is going home in december for a month. So um yeah...I dont think he and I are on the same page in terms of a relationship. Obviously relationships were not discussed. The conversation was actually quite good, we talked for about an hour and a half, no awkward silences. I am not sure why he's doing online dating to be honest. he doenst strike me as the type who is just looking to hook up...he couldnt be too lonely taking 5 classes for a masters this semester...sounds like his program does plenty of social activities on a weekly basis. So again...i dont know why he feels the need to do OLD at this point in his life...but i guess only he knows that. I know there is no set rule on OLD, but maybe people who are not looking for LTRs should indicate that. I mean, what 28 year old female isnt looking for something serious? Most are...but of course many men arent.
Of course for me it was a little disappointing...yes i met someone nice, but again it was someone that I know nothing will really come of. When we were leaving the good bye was sort of akward. He went to hug me, then i tried to kiss me on the cheek and my nose ended up hitting the side of his face...we laughed about it, then i ended up just kissing his cheek...i'm not really one of those kiss on the cheek people when i dont know someone-but he's european so that's his culture. He said he would give me a call at the end of the week when his midterms were over. Im not holding my breath.
Now, see, further to my other post to you this morning, with a few more questions by email or on the phone prior to meeting, you could have found those things out before you met him and then decided whether to meet him or not.
Sheri
Why is it awkward? I ask things like that all the time--not the ridiculous question about what are you doing for the rest of your life, but if someone's not originally from this area or doesn't seem to have ties to this area, I definitely ask about whether he plans to stay here.
What's awkward about an email that says, I understand you're in grad school and are from XYZ--what are your plans after school?
Sheri
But in your situation if he wants to meet up again, you can ask about his relationship priorities and if he will have the time to develop something special with someone and if this is one of his top priorities.