Explain this one to me

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Explain this one to me
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Thu, 08-10-2006 - 8:37am
So, I am the crazy girl that was on here a few weeks ago freaking out b/c a guy hadn't called in 2 days. Update: I took the plunge and called him, he called back. Said he's really busy with work (he owns a company). Asked if he wanted to get dinner Friday, said he couldn't but that I should come to one of his free lesson things going on on Tuesday or Wed. He said he'd call me before then to talk and with the details of the lesson. Well, big surprise, no call. I called him, left a message and he called back. It seems like I can only get a hold of this guy if I call him. But, here's the thing..I'm pretty much thinking hes just not that into me...but he keeps looking at my profile on Match. What is that? Any help would be MUCH appreciated!!
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 08-10-2006 - 9:23am
Whether he's just not that into you or whether it's just that his business is taking all of his time, do you really want someone in your life that you have to run after? I have a thing with running after people, even if it's just a friend... so personally I wouldn't want to feel the way you're feeling right now. Know what I mean?
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Thu, 08-10-2006 - 10:13am
ITA with Kerry.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 08-10-2006 - 10:36am
He's another guy who might be "into you" IF he made enough time to date you. Have you actually met him yet? If not, there is no way to judge if he would be "into you" or not. However, when I was doing OLD, I continually got caught up in conversations that seemed to steer towards "possible" dates with men who did not have the time nor did they seem to want to MAKE time for dating. Work is important and everyone has to do it to make a living, but there is a point where you either have to make time and effort to date or get out of the dating pool. I think men who have profiles online but do not have the time or gumption to date don't belong there. It's false advertising to say the least. It's another form of game playing in my book. I'd let him do the calling or just move on.
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Thu, 08-10-2006 - 2:33pm

Don't keep your hopes up too high with him. I know what you mean, I've been there before...it's all so familiar.

Keep your prospects open for someone who isn't so "busy" and making you do all the calling. It's a two way street, after all :)

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 08-11-2006 - 6:22am
He must find you interesting if he keeps looking at your profile, but you are correct in your assumption that he is just not that into you. Move on.