The Explanation.....

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The Explanation.....
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 2:23pm
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Edited 2/1/2006 3:25 pm ET by kae_n_me
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:53pm
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Edited 2/1/2006 3:29 pm ET by kae_n_me
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 3:54pm

No one is belittling anyone.

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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:08pm
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Edited 2/1/2006 3:29 pm ET by kae_n_me
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:29pm

>>But I have to also put this out there- I have noticed ( for my posts) that when I have good news to share there are little to zero posts. But when it is bad news or bad behavior of a date I get swamped with posts.... I am not sure what that says about the posters.... but maybe we all need to evaluate how and when we post b/c it sends off the wrong message...<<

First, let me say I'm sorry if I have not responded to your positive posts. I usually do try to add a "yay" or "good luck" or "keep us posted" to those posts for people. I think we all do need to hear more positive stories and it gives us all hope when something is going well for someone. I remember a lot of congrats posts for the user who just got engaged.

I think the people (myself included) who respond to your negative posts do it out of concern. Because we all have been in tough situations in relationships, we try to share the wisdom of our own experience. Sometimes it can be helpful to hear a different viewpoint when we're in the thick of something and can't necessarily see all the angles yet.

I don't think any of the posts were meant to belittle you or the guy you are dating, but were meant more as "have you thought of it from this angle?" questions and thoughts.

In the end, of course, your life and your choices are yours. None of us know all the details of your relationship, nor do we want to tell you how to live your life. I think we want to offer advice when we can, and hopefully help whenever possible.

I sincerely wish you luck as you go through this current situation, and I wish the best for you. I hope there are great things in your future.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:36pm

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I'm a single parent who didn't have a night off for 13 years. And yet I never got into physical altercations.

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Well, good! Then there should be no doubts that this could be a good match for you! It's not for everyone, but you need to find what fits in your life.

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And I'm sure Chamey does, too. I know how to be a good friend as well - but I also know how to balance that with keeping MY life healthy and balanced. For my sake as well as DS's. Sometimes you do need to put yourself and/or family ahead of unhealthy friendships.


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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 4:59pm
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Edited 2/1/2006 3:30 pm ET by kae_n_me
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:01pm

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Don't ask if you don't really want my opinion and are just going to argue.


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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:12pm
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Edited 2/1/2006 3:31 pm ET by kae_n_me
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:13pm
Glad his explanation satisfied you and you two are moving on.
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Tue, 01-31-2006 - 5:17pm
Thanks, sally!