Expressing myself

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Expressing myself
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 3:54pm

I have been in a in a long distance relationship for about 3 mos We haven't met yet do to low funds on both parts. I told him flat out that I don't trust men based on my family issues. He has a lot more experience in relationships then me and I'm worried of getting hurt. We had an argument and he called to apologize for being an A. He then told me he could be falling for me. I have tried in subtle ways to express my hesitancy about being in a relationship. I did tell him earlier I like him and the way banter back and forth. Should I feel more? I know I we haven't met.

Edited 3/6/2006 4:25 pm ET by julisa06




Edited 3/6/2006 4:27 pm ET by julisa06

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 4:31pm

Umm, no you shouldn't feel more. In fact, I think the two of you are way too involved for never having met. Please make sure you keep your expectations realistic and encourage him to do the same. Most of the time, your online "chemistry" does not translate into real-life chemistry. Right now, you are both falling for a fantasy that may or may not be the real person that the other is. I think you are right to keep your feelings guarded even if it's for another reason other than the fact that you haven't met yet.

Good luck but keep things in check until you can actually meet and see if you like each other in person.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 03-03-2006 - 5:11pm
Um, I'd worry about getting my feet on the ground and wanting to be in a relationship before trying to start one up, especially an LDR.