Fallen in love before meeting in person

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Registered: 06-20-2005
Fallen in love before meeting in person
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:05pm

I just wanted to know if anyone else had ever had this happen?

I have met and am making lots of life plans with a man I have talked to a million times but have never been in the same room with. I am 100% confident in him and us and our future. I trust him, I rely on him, I love him and am IN love with him.

How many of you have had this happen before? (We are planning to meet before the new year.)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:11pm

No, I haven't, and I'm very skeptical that it can happen. I do believe people can THINK they are in love with someone they've never met, but I believe actual love takes a very high level of knowledge of the other person that just isn't possible to get without meeting in person.

I wish you the best and hope that he meets your expectations!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:23pm

I don’t personally believe you can have “true love” without interacting with someone i.e. the day to day blows. Once you’re comfortable and the newness wears off that is when you know if you have the ingredients for a long lasting relationship. How you argue, how you play – communication when you’re around each other, the good and bad days, things in common. Actions vs. words – you have to experience it to know it. You can talk about *how you are* until you’re blue in the face but nothing else validates that until experiencing it first hand.

However with that said, I have a friend moving to Russia – they have been corresponding, talking for a year and a half. If they do in fact become an item I’d be happy for them but to me it’s *very very very* rare although it can and does happen.

Good luck,
SP

 
 
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 8:11pm

How do you rely on him?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:07pm

Hi,

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Edited 10/7/2005 7:04 pm ET by saralm
 
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Registered: 10-06-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 12:36am

I'm in similar situation. We met 10 months ago. I told him off cos he's in Europe and I'm here. Then.. he comes back. I told him off again last night.. but I felt very bad. I need him to make logical plan to come see me.

We're crazy for each others. It's troublesome.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 3:50am
You have fallen in love with a fantasy.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 6:58am

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It happened just once and I learned my lesson well. Although I didn't make *life plans* with the guy, I certainly developed a huge crush before meeting him. Online he was smart, witty, "all of that", but when we met he seemed a totally different person! Maybe he felt the same about me, because we only saw each other for a couple of months.

My lesson: it's not real until you meet in real life.

I would suggest that you check out the Long Distance Relationship board on iVillage. There are many people who are in the position you are and you could get lots of great advice.

Good luck, and take care!

amjay

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 8:10am
You're probably not going to get the advice you want to hear here.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 8:56am
Never.
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Registered: 06-20-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 9:36am

Thanks for all your responses. Diverse points of view and opinions are always nice to hear.

Take care everyone...

LMR :)

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