Fallen in love before meeting in person

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Fallen in love before meeting in person
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 5:05pm

I just wanted to know if anyone else had ever had this happen?

I have met and am making lots of life plans with a man I have talked to a million times but have never been in the same room with. I am 100% confident in him and us and our future. I trust him, I rely on him, I love him and am IN love with him.

How many of you have had this happen before? (We are planning to meet before the new year.)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 11:30am

Been there...Done that!

CL-Truewild1969

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 2:54pm

Sounds crazy but it's possible. Not sure what the percentage of success to that is but I have seen it happen. Just be cautious and NEVER plan to move to be with someone that you haven't met face to face.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 5:55pm

Good idea.. I'll check out the long distant board. He suggested the same thing that we need to meet first and he's making business arrangements.

The advantage I have is, I work in a field only very few people are in and he's one of them. There may be 200 at the most in the entire Sweden and less than 100 in my town. Therefore, we know each others professionally and we can figure each others out. The trust level is much higher.

Don't forget. Shania Twain and her husband fell in love on the phone before they met. They wrote their first album together on the phone and that became big hit.

Never say never but one needs to be logical.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 6:04pm

Risk can be fun. Higher risk, higher potential return.

Never say never. One can handle risk if one knows the danger of it. However, I don't recommend betting your life on it.

I've been single for a year. Total, I've dated 2 guys local and 2 long distant affairs. The two long distant ones are colleagues. I still think they're better catches then the local ones. In my business, international trading is part of the job and being involved personally with someone far away becomes a natural extension. It's actually advantageous if things work out.

The question is, who among them will make the practical steps to make it real?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 6:11pm

I check these guys out inside out.

He called from his business line, house line.. I looked things up everywhere before I allowed them closer.

They try to lie! Forget it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-06-2005
Thu, 10-06-2005 - 6:16pm

My friend flew to China once & got married.

He's a very wealthy man and Presidential candidate of a European country. Can't say which one cos it's all over the news.

So.. never say never.. percentage is low but you gotta evaluate your risk factors.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Sat, 01-07-2006 - 11:03pm

Hello all.

I wanted to update this eons-old post, if any of you remember.

The man I wrote about in this post and I met over Christmas. He spent sixteen days here with me and I just left him today at the airport. We had been talking online for six months when we met sixteen days ago for the FIRST time. It was a risk, perhaps a fairly big one.

It was worth it.

I have never felt closer or more in touch with someone. He was everything he had led me to believe he was and MORE. I was in love with him when he arrived and am even MORE in love with him now. The life plans that we made together before ever meeting face to face are still very much alive and even more concrete. We know that we want to be together.

So, in a world of uncertainty and being cautious and sometimes getting negative feedback on such things, know that it can turn out beautifully. Just wanted to share... :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 12:17am
I'm so happy for you that things turned out well. What are the next steps for you guys?
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 12:26pm
We are planning for him to move over in late July.

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