Family members dying all over the place

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Family members dying all over the place
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Tue, 04-12-2005 - 11:24pm

OMG, this is unbelievable. I'm almost thinking you're not going to believe I'm telling the truth because it's just too ridiculous.

So guy #1 and I had been trying to make a date for a few weeks now. I was traveling and he was busy so we kept missing each other. He cancelled on me once. I knew at that point in my gut I should just move on, but he sent me a really apologetic email the next day so I decided to give him another chance.

In the meantime, guy #2 is from out of town. Drops me a note end of last week saying he was going to be in LA tonight and did I have time to grab a drink. I said I had plans early that evening but could maybe meet him later. Yes, I was going to try to do two dates in one evening. Insane. Anyway, we spoke on Sunday to confirm.

This AM I get a call from guy #2. Family member (aunt I think?) is very ill and he decided to not come to LA afterall. I say "Uh huh, okay, well hope all goes well. Buh-bye."

Guy #1 calls shortly thereafter and we set a time and place. I'm at home getting ready and my phone rings 2 minutes before I'm going to leave. It's guy #1. "Uh, I have bad news. My uncle just died earlier today and I'm going to have to drive down to San Diego with mybrother." I'm speechless at this point. He says "I'm so sorry, uh, are you available next week?" I burst out in hysterical laughter and say "that's priceless. um, no, I'm pretty much tied up for the rest of my life" and hung up.

So i'm sitting here stunned beyond belief. Now in all my OLD days, I've never had a guy cancel. Now I've had 2 in the same night cancel from family member's deaths or near deaths. At LEAST come up with an original excuse will ya!

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 5:20pm
Thanks for the verbal spanking Vexer. I said it was my bad. Perhaps you missed that post. And you should probably take your own advice and learn a little tact yourself.
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Registered: 05-29-2003
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 5:21pm
No worries condorski. I NEVER set-up two meets in one night. I am just very busy this week and will be out of town all next week so I was trying to really accomodate the out-of-towner, more than anything. He's more of a potential business contact anyway, so I dind't really view it as a date.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 5:43pm
I read your post and the nonchalant "my bad" made me angrier. And I don't think tact was called for in my post when I was saying that what you did was rude and cruel. Having been on the receiving end of a less cruel version of what you did (I had a shredded tire on the way home from work on my way to visit my dying 17 year old cat before I was supposed to meet some guy for a first meet and he did a "yeah, sure, whatever" to me), let me tell you that it really sucks when you are telling the truth and are really upset and someone pulls that crap on you. Until you know if someone is telling the truth or not, assume they are.

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Wed, 04-13-2005 - 6:05pm

The problem with email/posts, is that sometimes the story unfolds,
so to speak.

I now better understand the situation.

I also understand your frustration on 2 last minute cancellations.

I would not say what you did was cruel, just a human reaction to
being cancelled on twice, for the same reason.

Just keep doin the best you can, that's all anyone can do really.

And again, you are the only one that has a real feel for whether
he was or was not telling the truth. I still say go with yer gut.

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