Farewell
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| Wed, 10-04-2006 - 6:20pm |
Farewell Ladies …
After 1 year using online dating site to find « my love » I realise that OLD it not for me. It is so for many reasons: Here is my top 3 list of reasons why:
1- I felt like a serial dater …. The male friend that suggested I become a member of a site says: “That’s the best thing about OLD. I say that’s 1 of the reasons why a woman & a man are SO different.
2- A couple of weeks ago, I found myself “flipping thru” the new member section, for new “prospects” based upon their picture & whether or not they had the ability to write a proper sentences. At that moment, I wondered: Who the H@ll am I to do that ??? I had to remind myself I was no DEBRA MESSING myself and that the majority of my posts on ivillage had MORE than 1 mistake in them.
3- I was not being fair: I met one dreamy, maverick of a gentleman from Europe who was out of my league and he had my heart spinning. After realizing he was not interested in me. I found myself comparing the other “prospects” him to. That was not fair or fun.
I will be missing all of you guys. I just wanted thank you for sharing your stories and expertise in the field or is that advice on wow to “play” the field”. It was a big advantage, to have this community to “fall back on” for advice. Because as someone recently posted,there’s a lot of misconceptions about people who chose to use the web as a means for finding a mate. My family and friends mostly believe that these sites are full of and for “freaky people.��
Please remember that:
1- You are ALL beautifully intelligent women and remember your beauty is not solely defined by your dress size or physically appearance. It helps…but that‘s not all.
2- Be confidante about who you are, don’t loose sight of who you are either and continue to defend your values respectfully.
3- There’s another human being at the other end of this virtual dating world/game.
Take care & best of luck to all of you.
Julie a.k.a Funnywinnie10
Edited 10/5/2006 11:31 am ET by funnywinnie10

Edited 10/5/2006 12:04 am ET by tstephnic
Hello tstephnic,
I just wanted to thank you and Kerry for your very kind words, I am touched.
Yes, I might just "drop in" from time to time, since what I have learned here goes beyond online dating and can very much apply to "simple"... lol dating ;-)
Best wishes. Have a nice day
Julie
Hello Raquel,
Thank you & good luck to you too
I don't know about Debra Messsing being “super-pretty”. But, I have always considered her to be pretty, she seems to be very down to earth and I’ve almost always found her super elegant in those "red carpet" evening gowns of hers... But that's just me.
Take care
Julie
Winnie, don't go! Just because you are not internet dating anymore doesn't mean you can't help those who are. You have experience!! I'm on a major dating hiatus, and I still read and post.
Years ago the betrayed spouses message board helped me more than any counselor ever could. I read it religiously as I stuggled with the end of a pretty significant relationship. What I noticed is that the ones who have been there and have healed were the ones who could help all of us puppies to much. But they didn't come back and post very much.
I now think of myself as owing it to others to give some advice from my perspective after all I've learned. You could do the same, no?
And I think Grace is gorgeous! She just looks like a real person, someone you might know, but all polished up and as they say in NY "fancy".
Chick
Hi Chickpee,
Thanks a lot for your kind words and wisdom ;-) The truth is, even if I've officially "called off the search" I keep visiting this board as often ...I guess there's a side of me that wants to believe that finding "true love" even online is possible. Oddly enough, at time, I find myself cheering for the Ladies on this board who share their situations or question with the rest of us.
So thanks and you're right... I have some experience in this matter and I maybe I should do my very best to share/give back the "wisdom" I was so selflessly given by the wonderful people on this board.... and this will also, probability give me reasons to keep me believing in the possibility of finding love.
Have a good weekend
Julie