Fat or Skinny...the issue.
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| Sun, 09-17-2006 - 11:50pm |
Okay, I want honest opinions. I am a size 10 pants...I'm 5'4 and weigh about 155lbs. I'm not fat but I've been told I weigh more than I actually look. A size 10 isn't bad in my opinion. I used to be a size 6 for about 2 yrs...this was about 3 yrs ago. I starved myself and excercised like mad to get there. It was really, really hard to maintain. My hair fell out, I was always tired, fatigued, irritable and I didn't feel that healthy, but hey, I was a size 6. Isn't that what we women desire to be? THIN? Well, I was what they'd consider skinny I guess. I got lazy and quit trying as hard. So now I'm a size 10 and actually feel healthier. My hair doesn't fall out and feel strong. The problem is this...I think my weight is a big issue for men. I don't think I'm fat but I can tell that men like super thin women. When I was starving myself and a size 6, I had men hit on me all the time. I was called for 2nd dates. Now that I'm 25 lbs heavier, I can tell that men don't give me the time of day they used to. This makes me feel bad.
My mother is a petite size 4. She's about 5'3". She's 55 yrs old but she looks 46 or 47 yrs old. We go to stores and me and my mother can be wearing the exact sort of outfit (jeans, summer top) but I notice that men look at her more than they look at me. Why is that? Because she's so much more thinner than I am? Why is small, thin and petite more appealing? It's soooo frustrating. I'm not fat, I figure that body-wise I must look like Beyonce or something...you know, thick legs, hips, average bust....but I'm not flabby or obese. I'm solid. But I'm no Halle Berry--I don't fit into size 2 clothes.
It pisses me off that we as women have to starve ourselves and reach this ideal because if we don't men don't give us the time of day! They look at your profile and skip you. Or they write you an e-mail and if they meet you, you're too 'big' for their taste. Weight is such a huge factor for men...even when you're not fat. They want something so lean and thin. It makes me angry. So I guess the point I'm trying to make is that I know I have to seriously lose weight now if I want some results on this online dating thing. That means I need to lose at least 30 lbs and get down to a fricken size 4 or 6 just to be able to be in the running. And yeah, some of you can say "Stay how you are. Someone will like you that way", but it's very few men. I could wait around months and months and I'm tired of being alone. If I don't do this now, another year can go by and I'll be alone and for what? All because I don't want to lose weight? It totally sucks.
Do any of you feel the same way?

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Let's cut to the chase here.
Bottom line: Gorgeous, thin women WILL attract MORE men, but they will not necessarily keep them nor does being lithsome guarantee love or happiness. Like Rebecca said, look at Christie Brinkley!!! Jeeze, I know of few women more gorgeous, younger or older.
If you are going to lose weight, do it because you want to be healthier and feel better about yourself.....DON'T do it to attract men...well, that should be only a secondary consideration.
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