February Roll Call

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
February Roll Call
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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:22pm

Ok, I know it's mid-February, but we haven't done one of these in a long time...


Please respond with the following:



  • Name

  • Location

  • How long have you been doing OLD for?

  • Experience of OLD so far.

Cheers!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2004
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 8:01pm

Name: Barb
Location: San Diego
How long have you been doing OLD for? Off and on for about 5-6 years

Experience of OLD so far.
I have had lots of different experiences with old. I first started doing it about 5-6 years ago and have had a total of 3 relationships and countless dating experiences from OLD. The first 2 ended after about a year and I'm now in my 3rd relationship that has so far been for 4 months and I couldn't be happier with this man and hoping he's the one. It's been a rough ride but good learning experiences for me and I did meet men who were relationship worthy on the sites, so there are good ones out there.
I think all those experiences, although frustrating and painful at times were all worth it for meeting the man I'm with now, if we stay together or not, but I'm having a good feeling this is it (hope I didn't jinx things by saying that ;-))

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2004
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 12:15am

Hi, my name is Jen. I live in Minnesota and I am 28. I've been doing OLD off and on over the last 6 years. Mostly in between long term relationships. The first time I tried it I used Hot or Not and met a guy that I had a 5 month relationship with. I suspect he was married or had a gf because I never once in the 5 months we dated saw his place or met any of his friends. He also had a hard time with wanting to be exclusive. After that relationship I had several dates that never really turned into anything. I had 2 long term relationships after that from guys I met in RL. One was about 9 months the other lasted over 2 years and just ended in Oct when he wasn't willing to discuss or even think of having a future with me. He was a big time commitment phobe and the signs were there from the very beginning I just wish I had listened to them.

Despite that though, I did learn a lot from that realtionship about myself and my needs. This time around in OLD I'm a lot more selective about who I go out with. I also date more than one person at a time now, something I thought I never could do. In the past, I would go out with just about anyone online if they made any interst in me and I limited myself to one guy at a time. That was a big mistake and I ended up going out with a lot of jerks, men that ghosted, men that only wanted sex or just genuinely wierd.

My experience over the last 4 months this time has been pretty positive. I'm meeting much more quality guys and I'm not putting up with a lot of the crap I did in the past. I did have one guy that I dated for about a month until he ghosted but so far most haven't made it past 4-5 dates.

Two weeks ago I posted an ad on CL and I was surprised by the response I got from several decent men. I'm happy to say that I have 2 decent looking prospects right now, one that I'm particualarly excited about and hope that it continues to get better and better and if not, I will keep chugging along. I figure with the amount of people I have been meeting, one of them is bound to work out eventually. OLD can be frustrating, but it can also be lots of fun. Here's to hoping that everyone finds love in 2007!

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