Figure this 1 out

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Figure this 1 out
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:15pm

Figure this 1 out... I recently started corresponding with a guy from an online dating site. We exchanged 5 emails within a week, always written with a strong degree of interest on both our parts (BTW, he contacted me first, even sent me a pic). Because I wanted to move the conversations to phone mode, I Took the initiative on the 4th email to give him my cell number. In the 5th exchange he was polite enough to even ask what the best day to call was. I answered of course. Fast forward to today, the guy was suppose to have called within the last couple of days. Yes, you guessed it. No call !
And hey, the purpose of all these 5 emails was what again ? (LOL)

Anybody have a clue as to what may have happened here / Do you think he might be married or already in a committed relationship ?

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:32pm

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BINGO!!

In 9 out of 10 cases they have something to hide when they don't follow thru on communicating like they say they will before actually meeting.

As we say here daily.....NEXT!!

Libra

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 1:43pm

"Anybody have a clue as to what may have happened here?"

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 1:57pm
What poster #3 said is probably true, but I have to agree that it is WRONG, totally WRONG..did I say WRONG??? to PLAY AROUND with someone's emotions/expectations. I don't care if it's online dating or not, no guy should tell you he's going to call if he's not. If he's married or in a relationship, he does NOT belong on internet dating. I only wish there was some way to make sure that was the case BEFORE you even e-mailed someone. It would save a lot of heartaches in the long run. I got burned with a guy online as well. I'm still trying to get over that one, (especially since we did meet) so it is much harder to just forget and say "next". That is not my style at all anyway. But, if you can develop a thicker skin when dealing with the online dating B.S., you're less likely to get hurt if you don't obsess about whether he calls, e-mails, or contacts you at all. But, I realize that is something we will both have to get better at in the world of online dating. Good luck.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 2:45pm

You know that same exact thing happened to me, I talked to someone through eharmony for a month, I made one attempt to ask to take it outside of email, he completely ignored the request, finally i wrote him an email and said I've enjoyed our correspondence but that I wasn't going to be using eharmony anymore, heres my number call me or good luck in your search and then I closed the match. He never called.

I don't join and pay for dating websites to have a penpal.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 5:10pm
Hey you know what I want to know? Why is it the guys we are into always do stuff like this? The guys we aren't, drop to their knees and propose or become mildly obssessed. Don't try to understand the male mind there is NO rhyme or reason for what they do. I still like the guy that I caught with another girl. He was smoking and had the perfect personality for me. He left HUGE shoes to fill for all of those who follow. I hate that!! He was perfect! But not into me? What is his deal? I rock..or so I think, so does my mom. So there!