Finally!

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Finally!
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 11:51am
ive been talking to this guy(online, but mostly on the phone now) for about 2 weeks. we really like each other so far but we havent had the chance to meet because of our work schedules. well, my schedule finally had an opening on a saturday night, the 28th. so we are finally going to meet and do something. Hes coming to my town. Its horrible because i have no idea what to do really. i mean, movie and dinner is what im thinking. im just all nervous! he seems like such a great guy. i just havent met him in person yet so im kinda nervous about that. ive seen him on his webcam and hes seen me, but thats not the same. its still like 2 weeks away, so ive got time to think about it all, thank goodness!
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: nicki8705
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:36pm

I would suggest NOT a movie. First meets are about getting to know each other so do something where you can TALK to each other. In a movie, you have to be quiet. Dinner is good (I assume that he's coming in from a distance since you said he's coming to your town). Look online and see if there are events going on in your town that night. See if the museum is open. Go ice skating, roller skating, bowling, go for a drink, take a walk, go sight-seeing, go to a sporting event... there are dozens of ideas where you can actually talk to one another rather than a movie.

Also, I would suggest having an "out" if things don't go well. There is nothing more excruciating than being on a bad date with no way to get out. As has often been said, there is no guarantee that you two will like each other in person as much as you like each other on the phone. So why not go for dinner and then have a second activity that if things are going well, you can suggest continuing the evening.

Have fun and good luck.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: nicki8705
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 4:23pm

I agree - no movies on a first date/meet.

I'd start with a casual dinner - nothing too fancy so there's no pressure. If things go well, maybe do something active like bowling, or indoor putt-putt golf. That way, you can still talk without the pressure of having to stare at each other all night.

Good luck and enjoy.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: nicki8705
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 5:29pm

Yes I agree with the others- not movie.

Dinner sounds like a good idea. If I were you (I'm usually careful), I would suggest pre-dinner drinks (if I don't like him I can go after a drink) then dinner. If you still really like him after dinner then you can take a walk by the water or something!