Finally got a picture...now what do I do
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Finally got a picture...now what do I do
| Mon, 02-28-2005 - 4:09pm |
Okay I would like some advice on how to delicately handle a situation. I was emailing a guy this morning. I asked for a picture. At first he said he didn't have one. I then repsonded by telling him that unless there is a picture I would not meet him. Finally he sent it. I was not attracted to him at all. I have not responded yet. I just got an email that stated "Did I scare you off? Was my picture that bad?" His picture was not bad, but I just don't find him attractive enough to continue. What would you do?
Thanks in advance!!!!
Jodie

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HI Jodie,
You did it right! I think by saying he still wanted to communicate, he thought he might be able to 'sway' you with his infinite charm...have had to block two of those, soon after I agreed to be kind and still write. From now on, it is Step Two! 1. Bye 2. Block.
Block Happens!
Sometimes I do not think these men Know what "no, thank you" means and they do Not want to take "no" for an answer. Like the song says "ya gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure".
Hooray You!
Truly,
Cupcake
>>It is hard when you have to be the "Not so nice" guy.<<
Ahh, but you are wrong. You were PERFECTLY nice with your email to him.
I do think, though, that when he said he would continue to write to you, you should have said "I'd rather not 'just be friends', so I will not respond to your emails." That would have continued your honesty and been more polite (since he has been pretty polite during this) to him.
Don't get me wrong; you don't OWE him that email; I just think it would have been a bit more kind. As it is, depending on the service, he might never know he's been blocked, and will now be writing you a few and wondering why you never respond to them.
Merely turning someone down does NOT mean we're somehow a mean, not-nice person; it just means we turned them down. We've been taught to please others, though, for a good portion of our lives; so if we find ourselves in a spot like this, we think that to turn someone down is to be not-nice.
Well, it's just being human, and I don't think we should have to apologize for it. I'm a big fan of sending return emails, as we all know, but that does NOT mean that we have to do/say something that isn't honest or might displease the reader of the email.
All we have to do is be kind (ie, no "you're so ugly that they use your picture to scare off rats" kinds of emails) and honest.
Edited 3/2/2005 11:40 am ET ET by niceguyonline122004
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