first date - did I do it right?
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| Sat, 10-22-2005 - 3:27pm |
Hi,
I just had the first date with a guy I recently met online. I think overall it went pretty well, except for a few things that I don't know if I handled appropriately.
First of all, he asked me if I've had many dates in the area yet. I just moved here 2 months ago and just started the online dating thing, the answer was no - he was actually the first person I met in-person. I told him honestly, and when he gave me the questioning look, I told him that I am just picky. :P The problem is, I have more dates lining up, which I totally forgot until I said it. Plus I was really answering his question. Do I need to tell him that I go on other dates next time, so he won't think that I was lying to him when he finds out?
I had a great time with him, and I can tell that he did too. He kept saying that we should do this again, and that next time he'll find a quieter place (we were in a loud Irish pub), etc etc. Towards the end of the date, I mentioned that my parents will be visitng me next week and that they'll stay until after the weekend. Then he said, "oh, so I won't be able to see you for at least a week then" Without thinking, I just blurted out that I'll be in the area since I need to pick up my parents from the airport next week (at night) - he lives very close to the airport. So he suggested that we can meet up for dinner, before picking up my parents. I should be happy about getting the 2nd date, right? But now I don't know if he was just doing it out of politeness, since I sort of forced it on him... Maybe the better thing to do would be to just wait one week and see if he calls me... :(
I may be reading way too much into this... but I've had 2 very long-term relationships (5 years each) in the past, back to back and I've never been on a proper date before. I am clueless on how it works (at age 28!) and I probably heard too much about "The Rules"... If anyone can provide me some insights, or tell me if I did anything inappropriately, I'd appreciate it. Thanks in advance!
J.

Yeah I think you are way overanalyzing this date.
Stop rehashing every word. You didn't force him into a thing if he didn't want to take you out he'd say he was busy that night.
Hey.. thanks for those who replied. I guess I'll just go there on Tuesday and see what happens. :)
Yesterday I met with another guy for the first time, and it had a disasterous start. I had to go to a dinner party, and was supposed to meet with him afterwards at 8:30pm. So I was paying attention to the wall clock the whole time (it was right in front of me...) and at 8:15pm I told the host that I've gotta go and meet someone. He said "oh, maybe I should've mentioned earlier, but the clock is one hour behind... we never adjusted it" At first I thought he was joking, but when I checked my own watch it was 9:15pm!! I called the guy immediately and explained the situation. Amazingly he was still waiting there! So I rushed down there and we talked for an hour and a half. It went well, but I was thinking that I wouldn't be surprised if I never hear from him again. I mean, I would've been pissed if I had to wait one hour for someone on the first date... But this morning I received his email and he wants to go out again! LOL. Just thought that it was so funny. :P I'll make sure to be on-time this time. :P
Hey girls,
This is kind of urgent. So at the end of the first date, we arranged to see each other on Tuesday right? I told him that I'll call him. Well, I just called his cell phone two hours ago and nobody answered. I left a message saying that I just wanted to say hi and see if he's still up for tomorrow. So far I haven't heard from him yet. I am starting to worry... what if I don't hear from him by tomorrow? Should I call or email him again tomorrow, or should I just wait? We are supposed to meet tomorrow for dinner... I hope he does call eventually because I had such a good time, and the way he acted led me to believe that he did too. I am not sure what to do now... Am I too obssessed? I don't want to feel this way. :( It was just one date and I already got my hopes up too high already. :( Some advice please.
J.