first date dinner and movie?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
first date dinner and movie?
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 10:55pm

just curious to see how you all feel about doing a dinner and a movie on a first meet.
I m supposed to meet this guy on Friday. We did email for couple of days then we spoke once on the phone and then agreed to meet. I ve met many guys so i m not nervous about it but never done dinner on a first meet. I feel it is better to go for a drink so if one of us wanted to leave earlier it is possible but with a dinner and a movie planned I guess there is no exit left if we dont like each other?!

Do you normally go for dinner on a first date? what would you do if you did not like the person 's company?

thnx

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 7:56am
For me, dinner on the first date would be too much (just in case I don't like him). I would be comfortable with drinks or coffee or lunch. I would only do lunch if I have exchanged quite a few emails before hand.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 9:54am
I'm usually fine with dinner but prefer a drink, coffee or something short for the first meet. If it's going well, you can always expand it to dinner or something else. But absolutely not on a movie. You are supposed to be getting to know each other and in a movie, you can't talk and it's a little "cozy" for a first meet. See the suggestions on the post by nicki called "Finally!" If things are going well, there are tons of things you can do that allow you to have fun and still chat with each other. But have activities planned in "steps" so that if the first thing goes well, you can suggest the next activity.

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 3:59pm

My first meets are usually coffee, drinks, or lunch - in that order. Coffee and drinks are very casual and easy to bail if needed, but also create a more relaxed atmosphere for talking. Lunch is good because you have the excuse that you need to get back to work - and, if it's really bad, you can say you need to run an errand and cut it short.

I've never done dinner on a first meet. I had one guy press me to have dinner at a super swanky place, and I just couldn't do it because I think it's too much pressure with a total stranger.

AJ, enjoying life with C.