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| Mon, 08-08-2005 - 9:45am |
Hi To Everyone,
I am in my 40's and I am soon to be separated and got ahead of myself and posted a profile on a match/dating site. No pic posted. I was mildly hounded for a pic by some charmers and gave in. One man I did not see a pic of because he had no pic posted and the other was not my type but good looking...and both charming with chat...So, I decide, though I plan on losing some weight and then, *MAYBE* meeting these guys in a couple months when I move to my home state...I email/send a slightly older pic that really doesn't look like me much anymore (I look better now due to hairstyle, etc., but I am slightly heavier now), but it is a *fairly good* pic, in my opinion, not beauty queen NOR alien or ugly, just natural (I'd give it a "7")....and both these guys must have hated it...Neither even answered the email. I did email and tell one that he would have been more poilte to at least have responded and said I wasn't his type...and the other I had to contact also, but he responded he was sorry that I was not his type but we could still chat, if I wanted. Just venting.....these guys are picky....and seem to want women a lot younger than they are. ACK! Any similar experiences?
Edited 8/8/2005 11:25 am ET ET by saralm

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Thanks. I plan on posting a current photo when I do go back onto the site seriously. :) I think I will be confident even to do so when that time comes. Thanks!
P.S. Loved the line about men and getting them past their silly notions....LOL
Edited 8/9/2005 8:17 am ET ET by saralm
Edited 8/9/2005 8:18 am ET ET by saralm
If you are not yet divorced...i think many men online will see 'separated' as somewhat temporary. Many good ones wouldn't want to take the chance of dating someone who is not out of their relationship yet in case you'd not finalize the divorce. Many men would also be cautious (and the same goes for females, well at least for myself, i wouldn't be interested in dating a man who was separated for anything other than sexual/friend companionship ...being honest here...and frankly i am not even doing that because "separated" online can mean nothing...as in married man period).
The best thing to do is to be honest with yourself about what you are looking for, who you are (right now) and what your intent is. Go from there.
good luck and i am glad you are posting,
Lizzie
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