First meet

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Registered: 09-09-2003
First meet
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 10:13pm
It s been a while I did not meet anyone from OLD. Today, I met this guy who I corresponded with for a while. He is not educated but he is not dumb. Actually he is much smarter and more cultured than I expected. First thing I noticed, he lied about his height, said he is 6'2'' but he is only 6' I think. He said he is fit but he has a round belly. Ok I wont judge based on that. So we had a great conversation and he was a little nervous at the beginning. Towards the end he mentioned that he is taking down his profile.
then I mentioned I m taking the afternoon off tomorrow since it is beautiful weather. So he said ok I will take tomorrow off too lets do something together!
Then he said I want to see you again, at first I thought I should give him a chance and said me too I would like to see you again but then he got too touchy feely and macho and he would look me in the eyes and smile as if he is waiting for a kiss tonite. By the time I got home I had changed my mind and dont want to see him again. He got too pushy and annoying. So I dont know what to tell him now that he had made plans for the summer together adn mentioned that he would cook for me and take me to his favo restaurant...
At one point I asked if he likes watching movie so he said: honestly I never finish a movie, it is always an excuse, if I m with a good company I never finish the movie and winked at me!! (YUK!!!)
He has my number and called me few times.
I dont know how to get rid of him now after I said I would like to see him again adn that he sounds interesting!

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Registered: 08-22-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:04am

...oh my goodness, hahaah, this guy assumed a whole lot, didn't he? I can't believe he also made the comment about his movie-watching habits. Yucky! What a chump. It seems like his main objective is to get romantic and real quick.

If you dont want to get into any kind of confrontation about it, then just say you are busy and ghost on him. Otherwise, tell him the truth that you feel like it's not a match and also that he was a little pushy. I would probably tell him the truth if I was in that situation since you already agreed to see him again.
Good luck !

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 9:14am

Yick, what a slime ball.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 04-07-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 2:23pm

I would go out with him one more time. Maybe the pushiness was his being nervous and it may go away as he gets to know you better. Lying about 2" isn't that big a deal. Maybe he was rounding up. As far as the belly it depends on his age. If he is older men have bellies much like women have arm flab. No matter how hard we exercise sometimes it just stays.

I would honor your word and see him one more time. If he continues that same bad behavior you can tell him face to face that you see somethings in him that just won't work for you and move on.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 4:48pm

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww this guy is GROSS the never finishing movie & it's only an excuse was the icing.

 
 
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 6:47pm

thnx for the suggestions all.
I dont want to see him again although it might be the best way out but the guy turned 180 degrees after I said I would like to see you again!
He showed me his real face I guess after he got comfortable. This is an "excerpt" from his profile:

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Ok, sure, I'm a guy and women seem to think that the fastest way to reach a guy's heart is through good food and good sex. Lemme tell you, I cook very well and good sex comes mostly from the mind, from the chemistry, from the attraction, but well, I'm a good cook too. ;)

I'm a very active guy, I love dancing, all kinds, I love sports, all kinds, I love nature. Heck, I love life. By being active, I also enjoy the quiet time (hint: re-read previous paragraph), but as long as you are not too quiet. ;)
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Too much sex innuendo here! I think this was a red flag I shouldnot have ignored b4.
And The movie thing he mentioned when he was walking me home, this is when I was like No way I m not seeing you a$$hole again.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 6:52pm

I agree. When you mentioned that remark he made about the movie being an excuse and then winking......reminded me of John Carry in some comedy show trying to be a Ricko Suave and get in the girls pants! That to me was the dead give away he was looking for one thing. Sorry but no respectful man would make such a comment on a first meeting -show some class! But better to find out now then later.


 
 
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Registered: 05-19-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 10:35pm

My goodness. He's quite the presumptuous one, isn't he?

Okay, okay... so you initially agreed you'd like to see him again and found him "interesting". It sounds like that part of the conversation transpired early on in the date before he began showing his "true colors".

You owe the guy nothing, so don't guilt yourself about having to turn him down.

Somehow, I get the feeling this isn't going to be his first time with "the talk".

You could send the polite email as Vex mentioned- I think she worded it well. OR... do nothing and just ghost on him. He should get the point. Well, maybe HOPE is a better word.

I tend to be more of a ghoster myself in cases like this. You just don't know what to expect from these kind of men. Sometimes, silence can speak volumes.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 04-02-2006 - 12:37pm
I agree, what a sleazy cheesy ICK!!! I don't know if I'd bother sending an email, after just one meet you don't "owe" anyone anything. But if you do, definitely block so you don't have to read the nastygram he will probably send back.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 1:41pm
The only reason I suggest the email is because she DID agree to see him again.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 7:19pm
I sent him an email saying I met someone in RL and I prefer to pursue things with him. I doubt he will contact me again :)

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