first meet with bachelor 3

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Registered: 06-27-2005
first meet with bachelor 3
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 2:06pm

Just got back from my first meet with bachelor # 3....we went to lunch... I didn't feel the spark. He is really a nice guy, and probably a great boyfriend, but there is no chemistry. At least not yet.

Ok- there is just this problem....he seems like he would make a great gay guy... which would make sense that he is easy to talk to... does that make sense?

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 2:12pm

Are you from the cincinnati area? Cause you just described the guy I dated a week ago and broke it off with! He was such a sweet guy and would make a great boyfriend for someone, but not for me. He did act feminine in some ways! I don't know how to describe it! I kept dating him because I didn't know if the chemistry would build or not and it didn't. I wouldn't force something that you can't see happening.

Layx2

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 2:23pm
No, but he is from Chicago!
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Registered: 09-23-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 2:34pm

This is a hard call but I would go out with him one to two more times to see if the chemistry builds. It probably will be difficult since you are feeling Bachelor #1 (am I correct?). Gee girl, you seem to have quite a few guys -- I'm jealous! (smile)

Mmh, that's interesting about the "gay" issue -- not sure what you mean about being easy to talk too that he should be gay? I don't get that!

Anyway, have fun, don't sweat it and when it feels right, you will know it!

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Registered: 06-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:33pm
I guess what I meant about the "gay" thing... is you know how gay guys make great girlfriends? I guess that's what I meant by it. I don't feel like I have to impress him or that he would rather be watching sports then hang out with me....He would like to go shopping or tag along to the hairdressers... Did that make more sense.?
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Registered: 09-23-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:42pm

Okay, I gotcha! (smile)

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:49pm
could it be that your not feeling any chemistry because you are not comitted to the idea? It seams to me that your in to the other bachelor...I know in my own experience if I have a great time with someone else I have a hard time going on other meets my heart isnt into it.....
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Registered: 06-27-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 4:31pm

hmmmm no... b/c if Moris Chestnut or LL Cool J walked into my life... believe me...I would be into them a whole lot more!!!

The vibe I get from him is more of a friend vibe. I don't think there could be any kissing or sex... I am just not attracted to him....in THAT way. But he is very nice and extremely polite...

Any takers? I can set you up?

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Registered: 09-23-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 9:49am

Girlfriend, I hear you.....but Morris Chestnut is mine; and prefer 50 over LL Cool J; although if he came my way I wouldn't decline. (smile)

Although this guy seems nice and extremely polite, does he have a lil roughness about him?? Hey I like a balance - corporate and street mixed together. (smile) I'm in Georgia, not sure where you are located.

You seem pretty grounded with your thoughts and hopefully when it happens to me (yep still hoping) that I will be too. In the past, like the other poster stated, once I'm feeling someone, it's difficult to meet other people. I mean I do, but I then view them as a "friend" only; but in all fairness, I have yet to have the opportunity to have met say 2-3 guys who gave me "butterflies".