First meet planned

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First meet planned
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 4:08pm
Well, I have a first meet planned for Monday. One of the eH guys that I have been chatting with. We moved through pretty quickly - only a handful of emails and one phone message from him and we are planning to meet for coffee on Monday night. It will be my first official coffee meet for an OLD meet. But there is a time and place so I think this one will actually happen unlike the last one that ghosted after we tentatively made plans and then kept playing phone tag for a couple weeks and then gave up. It is interesting b/c we both grew up in the same suburb in Oklahoma and might even know some of the same people. He seems pretty nice and his voice wasn't wimpy on the message so that is good. The picture is nice - he's not drop dead gorgeous, but he has nice eyes and a nice smile and there was a date on the picture that said it was taken in February, 2005 so it should be recent. I am ready for a decent first meet! Wish me luck!

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 10:38am

Thanks sunshine!

Yeah, I think the coffee meet idea is a good one in concept due to the ability to cut it short if things are not going well or keep it going if they are. Fortunately, I have never had a really bad OLD dinner (most were no chemistry but nothing really bad) but I had a couple back in the days I used a dating service for a while and BOY, dinner can be a really long time to spend with someone you really don't like! Unfortunately, both guys that were really awful were thinking the dates were going really well so they kept trying to keep them going! I know what you are talking about with the wine thing too - you are so tempted to just yell at the waiter "Keep 'em comin'!"

I'm going into this with no expectations. The guy seems nice, but we'll see how it goes.

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 1:34pm
Wishing you good things tonight!
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 6:02pm
Good Luck Vexer! I hope it goes really well for you!
J
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 12:26pm
WELL? How did it go?
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 1:35pm

I kept meaning to come back out and post but there wasn't much to say! He was nice and attractive, but we had very little in common other that growing up in the same town in Oklahoma. We have completely different tastes in music, movies, entertainment and lifestyles. He is more obscure while I am pretty mainstream. And he doesn't really like sports much (he likes them OK but not a fan of anything which is a big thing in my book). Conversation dragged a little by the end of the night and he kept saying things like, "Hmmm, what other questions do I have?" kind of like he has a list or something.

Also, I am recovering from ANOTHER cold (#4 this year) and have a cough that won't go away so I kept having to excuse myself to cough. Not a great impression - I probably should have postponed, but I just wanted it over with. At the end, we shook hands and said "Nice to meet you." with no mention of a second date. He was nice enough but no chemistry at all. That and the d#$% coffee kept me awake all night - they didn't have decaf!

Thanks for asking but it is a big fat NEXT!

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 1:42pm
Sorry it turned out like that
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 1:54pm
The way I look at it is that it could have been a lot worse and it was just another first meet down. I don't really enjoy them but the more I do, the easier they will be, I think. But yep, just one more unsuccessful first meet down.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:36pm

Hi Vex-


As my shrink says you've gotta meet 100 guys in order to get one good one.

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 2:57pm

Absolutely! And it wasn't unpleasant - just not going to go anywhere. I usually figure as long as I don't have a horrible time, then it is OK.

It was kind of funny when he and I started talking about horror stories on OLD. Fortunately, neither one of us had one, but he had a couple friends that had some including a guy friend who had a girl that got so drunk he couldn't let her drive home. But she was so drunk that she also couldn't tell him where she lived and then threw up and passed out in his car. He took her back to his place an put her on the couch. Apparently she woke up the next morning and didn't remember anything. Now THAT is a bad first meet!

Yeesh - 100 guys to get a good one?!? I've got a long way to go!

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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 3:23pm

I've heard stories like the one you just told too.

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