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| Sun, 07-31-2005 - 9:10am |
Well, I happy to report that gentlemen do still exist. The guy was an absolute gentleman. He had honestly represented himself too. He was 6"3" and quite nice looking. His hair was a little thinner than expected, but he still had it :). We sat outside and had lunch by the river. I went to give him money and he not only refused to take it, but gave me that look and said "put that away..I'm taking care of you today." We walked around the town which was very nice, stopped and got a iced tai chi at Barnes and Noble and then later rented a movie and got pizza at his place. I offered to pay at each step. The only thing he let me pay for was the movies. He held my chair out for me, opened doors, ect. He held my hand and we kissed, but he didn't even try for anything else. He even said that he hoped that his giving me a kiss when we were walking didn't offend me. He wanted to put his best foot forward. He called me on my cell when I left to let me knoe I could call him at anytimte while I was driving to help me stay awake if I was tired. He also wanted me to call him when I got home so he knew I made it all right. He e-mailed me last night too telling me what a great time he had and looked forward to seeing me again soon. If I felt the same way and wanted to see him too, he would come up to me. He said I could "have stayed over and left early in the morning because he would have been the perfect gentleman and will always treat me that way." Pretty nice, eh?(He had said again how shocked he was I drove down there. He felt it was the gentleman's place to drive to the lady, but he appreciated my coming down.)Anyway, it short, all went well and we will probably meet again.

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You wrote: "If anything, my only concern is it being too serious too soon."
That would be my concern as well...I wouldn't *allow* it to get serious fast, in your shoes, as that is what men with a number of different issues (controllers/abusers, narcissists, commitmentphobes, to name a few) want...they want to sweep you off your feet, get you hooked, and only THEN will their true personalities come out, after they know they "have" you.
Now, he MAY well be a perfectly great guy...I hope he is! But only time will tell, so I would keep things at a slow pace for the first couple months.
Sheri
and REmember Healthy R'ships start off slow. yes we all know there are stories of Romeo and Juliet but the best r'ships are those that flourish, and are balance.. too much too soon is a clear red flag to watch out for..
Time, Experience, and Instinct will show a person's character. so allow that time .. don't put him on a pedestal so fast..
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