First meet/caution flag?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
First meet/caution flag?
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:41am

I have a first meet planned for tomorrow.

We talk about red flags - I think this is just a caution flag. His profile is new, and he doesn't have a pic up. He said he mailed one in, but it isn't up yet.

Am I so jaded? My first thought was "yeah, dude, you're married and don't want to get caught with a profile up". His profile says he has 2 in college and his teen aged daughter lives with mom. I do believe he's divorced - but I'm still cautious about him being single.

I wouldn't normally meet someone with out first seeing their picture, but we're just meeting to watch some football at a sports bar. Already have it set up that some friends are going to stop in too.


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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:57am

On yahoo and match it takes about 24 hours for your picture to show up, how long ago did he say he sent it in?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 12:01pm

Well, his profile has been up for about 2 weeks now. If he snailmailed a pic to them, then I can see it taking 2 weeks or so. In fact, I think they say on the site that you should expect a minimum of 10 business days if you mail in a pic instead of doing it electronically.

Oh, well....as usual, I have zero expectations.


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Registered: 05-23-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 12:21pm
The first time I joined match I didn't have a digital camera and snail-mailed my picture...which they ended up losing 'cuz two weeks later my pic still hadn't been posted and when I emailed them, the reply I got 2 days later said they never got it.
Anyway, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt at this point and just go a watch some football and see what happens. It would be like any other guy you might get to talking to at a sports bar...not knowing anything about their marital status, just having a good time. If there is an attraction and you decide to pursue something then there are other red flags that'll be indicators of whether or not he's already in a relationship.
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Registered: 10-13-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 3:54pm

I had something similar happen to me too. A guy e-mailed me but there was no pic. He said he was cautious about posting his pic on the web (which is "understandable") BUT I still had my guard up. So I e-mailed him back and said that I would either wait for him to post a pic within the next few days and said "Take care". He said he would post it Monday.
Monday came and went..still no photo..hmmm, lol.
He wrote back a week later, said some BS about how he was out of town, taking care of business, and suggessted that I give him my real e-mail address so he can send it.

DELETE! Next! I don't have time for that, I'm not dying to see what he looks like. My inbox is flooded everyday with people interested in meeting me in person, with photos POSTED I might add. :)

CONCLUSION: He's married OR In a relationship...bah bye!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 4:10pm

I did date one guy who couldn't post his pic because of work (Immigration undercover work), but I don't think that's the case with this guy.

My inbox isn't flooded - I live in a small town, very conservative area, so OLD is not the best method of meeting guys anyway.

I'll give him a first meet. Then we'll see.


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Registered: 10-13-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 5:08pm

Well good luck to you on your meet.

Keep us posted! :)

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 8:09pm
Since our inbox is not Hurricane Wilma'd with emails from available men like McSushi's, I'd meet him too and give him the benefit of the doubt. I really do hate calling a person a liar until they deserve it.


Edited 10/21/2005 11:03 pm ET by fxr4me
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 9:41pm

I believe McSushi is a female, just so ya know... ;o) And if I'm wrong, someone shoot me! LOL


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Registered: 09-14-2005
Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:04pm
Does it make sense now?
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Registered: 09-14-2005
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 9:52am
I hope you have a good time today, Sis. I hope he knocks you off your feet. Wouldn't that be nice for once? LOL

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