First meet/caution flag?
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First meet/caution flag?
| Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:41am |
I have a first meet planned for tomorrow.
We talk about red flags - I think this is just a caution flag. His profile is new, and he doesn't have a pic up. He said he mailed one in, but it isn't up yet.
Am I so jaded? My first thought was "yeah, dude, you're married and don't want to get caught with a profile up". His profile says he has 2 in college and his teen aged daughter lives with mom. I do believe he's divorced - but I'm still cautious about him being single.
I wouldn't normally meet someone with out first seeing their picture, but we're just meeting to watch some football at a sports bar. Already have it set up that some friends are going to stop in too.


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On yahoo and match it takes about 24 hours for your picture to show up, how long ago did he say he sent it in?
Well, his profile has been up for about 2 weeks now. If he snailmailed a pic to them, then I can see it taking 2 weeks or so. In fact, I think they say on the site that you should expect a minimum of 10 business days if you mail in a pic instead of doing it electronically.
Oh, well....as usual, I have zero expectations.
Anyway, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt at this point and just go a watch some football and see what happens. It would be like any other guy you might get to talking to at a sports bar...not knowing anything about their marital status, just having a good time. If there is an attraction and you decide to pursue something then there are other red flags that'll be indicators of whether or not he's already in a relationship.
I had something similar happen to me too. A guy e-mailed me but there was no pic. He said he was cautious about posting his pic on the web (which is "understandable") BUT I still had my guard up. So I e-mailed him back and said that I would either wait for him to post a pic within the next few days and said "Take care". He said he would post it Monday.
Monday came and went..still no photo..hmmm, lol.
He wrote back a week later, said some BS about how he was out of town, taking care of business, and suggessted that I give him my real e-mail address so he can send it.
DELETE! Next! I don't have time for that, I'm not dying to see what he looks like. My inbox is flooded everyday with people interested in meeting me in person, with photos POSTED I might add. :)
CONCLUSION: He's married OR In a relationship...bah bye!
I did date one guy who couldn't post his pic because of work (Immigration undercover work), but I don't think that's the case with this guy.
My inbox isn't flooded - I live in a small town, very conservative area, so OLD is not the best method of meeting guys anyway.
I'll give him a first meet. Then we'll see.
Well good luck to you on your meet.
Keep us posted! :)
Edited 10/21/2005 11:03 pm ET by fxr4me
I believe McSushi is a female, just so ya know... ;o) And if I'm wrong, someone shoot me! LOL
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