First meet/caution flag?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
First meet/caution flag?
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 11:41am

I have a first meet planned for tomorrow.

We talk about red flags - I think this is just a caution flag. His profile is new, and he doesn't have a pic up. He said he mailed one in, but it isn't up yet.

Am I so jaded? My first thought was "yeah, dude, you're married and don't want to get caught with a profile up". His profile says he has 2 in college and his teen aged daughter lives with mom. I do believe he's divorced - but I'm still cautious about him being single.

I wouldn't normally meet someone with out first seeing their picture, but we're just meeting to watch some football at a sports bar. Already have it set up that some friends are going to stop in too.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2003
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 2:52pm

Lurker popping in:

The first guy I met with from match did not post his picture. He said he felt very uncomfortable with the premise that anyone (non-members) can just browse the pics. I guess that felt invasive to him. He was very forthcoming in sending me a pic though. After meeting him, I could see that he was a very reserved, shy person and I think the prospect of his co-workers stumbling upon his pic (and teasing him about it) was un-nerving for him. I didn't feel 100% comfortable posting my pic either, but I knew that men weren't going to contact me without one.
On the flip-side of that, I had a man contact me and I looked up his profile. I didn't respond right away because he was a couple years past my age specification. A day later I went back to give it some more thought and found the profile obviously hidden. Out of sheer curiosity, I emailed him and told him I couldn't find his profile. He told me it would be back on shortly -- and he did "unhide" it again. Shortly after that it was gone once again. Well, I wasn't born yesterday and my intuition told me that everything was not on the up and up with this guy. Of course I don't know that for sure since I did not continue communication with him.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2005
Sun, 10-23-2005 - 11:03am
So? How did it go? Penn State won and won large!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 8:43am

He ghosted.

Got 3 emails from him over the weekend - one apologizing. His excuse was that his one son came home from college for the weekend, and also that he was sick.

Then the 2nd email was asking if I still wanted to get together. He could have called ME if he wanted to go out, instead of sending me an email with his number.

Then the 3rd was just "Are you watching the game"?

NEXT.


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