First Meeting Cancellation?

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Registered: 01-05-2006
First Meeting Cancellation?
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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 3:51am

I messaged a guy on a single site and gave him my MSN addy and we chatted on line. He said that he wanted to chat again after our first one and that he wanted to get to know me better. Then we proceeded to the phone, and talked alot about our jobs, family and similarities. We had alot in common and I found out he just lived down the street from me. He asked me out for coffee to meet in person this past weekend and then had to cancel because he injured himself from working out at the gym and ended up at emergency with pulled muscles. That was 2 days ago. He apologized and said that he really wanted to meet me and it wasnt an excuse. Some guys would do that but he wouldnt. We made arrangements to get together tonight. He would call me to make arrangements. I havent heard a word from him.

I called him and left a message to ask how he was and if we were still on for tonight. I suppose just to ease my mind because I was convinced he would have called me by now. This happened with another guy I met online. Same thing. We chatted and then proceeded to phone calls, set up a date and he cancelled at the last minute by email. Why does this happen? Anyone have the same thing happen and any explanations????

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 6:25am

If there was only an answer....

-happens so many times, EVEN if the guy swears he's not the kind of guy to do that.....

Frustrating, isn't it? I hope he calls and everything works out for you.

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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 4:40pm
Well unless he has a very good reason I would refuse to go out with him if he does call. I doubt it though. I haven't heard a word. I just wonder what the reason is. He didnt have to call me to set up the date. MEN!!!!
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Registered: 01-05-2006
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 6:52pm
Well the guy that I was supposed to meet and thought he cancelled is angry that I assumed he cancelled. He sent me a rather nasty email after I sent off a nice one to him this morning telling him I enjoyed our chats and was miffed at him cancelling but if he wanted to still go for the coffee to contact me. He replied that he had to work until 10:30 last night and didnt want to call me then and he made up his mind now and that he hopes I find what I am looking for and DONT ASSSUME. NaSty I think. He could have apologized I think for not calling me or said it was a misunderstanding. Any thoughts???
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Registered: 05-28-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 7:09pm

Yeah, that solidified it. Sounds like a jerk to me.....you don't want those kinds of issues. Touchy, isn't he?

Be glad you found out now....I suppose