first meeting with this OLD guy

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Registered: 11-08-2004
first meeting with this OLD guy
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:35am

Hi,

I've dated A LOT through OLD over the years, and I mean A LOT (this is not meant a brag by anymeans, just to show that I have some experience here). I've met all kinds of guys, although almost all were very nice and even got serious with a few (8 mos or more) before we (mostly me) decided it wasn't right. I've had a hell of a time find someone who fits.

Well, damn, I think I found him! I never met anyone who felt like this! This guy felt great (not physically, we just met) but it felt like home, being with him (4 hr date).

Damn, damn, damn! I am terrified (but in a good way - I hope)! He seemed to indicate that he felt the same or similar, but one never knows, he could just disappear as OLDers are want to do.

Thanks for listening - wish me luck, please.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 5:08pm

Asking you to call is a sure sing of "not sure she's into me".

Personally I'd send a brief email:

Hey-

I didn't sour you on the entire concept of online dating, did I?

-Buttercup

If you don't hear back - move along. I think phoning puts him sort of on the spot.

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 6:47pm

thanks for the advice, I sent an email saying I had fun and would love to do the dinner thing we talked about.

God, I'll just die if he sees this on here.




Edited 3/23/2005 8:18 pm ET ET by buttercup_36w
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Registered: 11-08-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:59am

still nothing, oh well.

I do have a date with someone else this weekend who is very fun too.

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 12:02pm
Geez, I am so sorry.
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 1:42pm

That's the way Buttercup - keep the others going also! Maybe this guy *is* into you, but he doesn't want to appear over eager, so he is waiting a bit to contact you....But I think that you are doing the right thing with still meeting other OLDers. But I know even though we talk about not letting it get to us, when these things happen with our dates, it's still hard not to think about it and anaylze it some! I say "his loss" if he ghosts...

Have a great time on your date this weekend!

Sunshine

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 1:47pm
Thank you for the support, Sunshine!
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 3:50pm

Well, I hate to be a downer, but if the date was Sunday and you emailed him earlier this week and still nothing, I'd say he is a ghost. Not being over-anxious is one thing, but almost a week with no communication is quite another. Especially when you have sent a note. :-( Sorry - I know tht is not happy news, but it is probably realistic. He might still show back up, but he might be one of those that just kind of pops back and forth. Too much drama!

But hey - you have this other guy that you say is fun and seems great too. Just enjoy your next date and forget about the other guy. If he gets his stuff together, fine. If not, NEXT!

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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 10:35pm
He emailed me saying he also had a nice time and could we get together this week.
Yay!
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 2:56pm
If anyone is interested, we had date 2 and it was very nice, another 4.5 hour date! We are so much alike it's like our lives are parallel. He didn't mention seeing me again at the end of the date, but he did say he wanted to take things slow as he is prone to jumping in too fast. Guess time will tell.

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