First Meeting...6yrs later.
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| Mon, 10-17-2005 - 9:27pm |
Hi everyone,
It's nice (and a little bit weird) to see there are other people in the same situation as myself. I'm not sure if I have a specific question but would appreciate any comments or advice!
I met a guy online about 6 years ago and we had an online thing for about a year and a half but never met in person because of the distance (different countries in different hemispheres). We eventually drifted apart and lost touch.
Then 3 years ago, I was here in the US on vacation and suggested that he come meet me, but he never did.
I am now in the country again for school and recently got back in touch with him. Initially I told myself that I will not allow it to become more than a friendly thing but things have progressed rather quickly and he has made his feelings pretty clear to me.
In December I will be heading home, passing through a city close to where he lives and he has said that he will come meet me. I have read all the safety advice on first meetings of this kind, but because we will only have 5 days together (and who knows when we will see each other again) I am expecting to spend the whole time together.
I'm not sure what my expectations are. It would be great if it turns into something serious as I will probably be back in the US next year for school/work (albeit in a different state, halfway across the country). But if it doesn't work out that way, I would still like the chance to finally meet him.
I would really appreciate any comments or advice on my situation in general or on the potential first meeting.
Thanks!

Hi liberty and welcome!
Before I share my thoughts, answer a question for me:
Ultimately, what do you want out of life regarding a romantic relationship? Marriage? Long-term? Dating?
Then we'll go from there.
Hi :-)
Well ultimately marriage would be good.
Then tell me... why set yourself up into something that most likely isn't leading down that path? I'm not a fortune teller but I would think that by staying with him a week, you may be setting yourself up for a letdown if it doesn't pan out.
Also, why hasn't he made the attempt to start something up before this? That really bothers me.
What is your gut telling you?
Oh........6 years? He hasn't made plans to see you? To fly to be meet you? You are setting yourself up for failure here. If you are getting along good he would go out of his way to board a plane and fly to where you are going to school instead of waiting till you travel close to his city. If you're curious I say go for it but leave the heart home when you do. My bet to you is he doesn't show up.
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I get what you're saying, and I have thought about that...but I didn't mean that I necessarily see marriage with him or that that's what I want right now. Right now I guess I just want to have fun cos I am still young...and I'm very curious to see what he's like in person.
As for why he hasn't attempted to start something up before this...I'm not sure...maybe because we lived so far apart, and he has said that he never thought I could feel the same way about him as he did about me, and that he didn't think he was quite good enough for me...does that sound like a complete line? :-)
My gut tells me that we have a connection...but of course, a lot of people think that about their online relationships right?