First Names

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Registered: 08-14-2003
First Names
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Tue, 08-19-2003 - 9:15pm
OK, here's a new one for me. I sent this guy a "wink" got a short note back from him asking me to tell him more. I did. He wrote another longer email-- telling me what he did and some more generic stuff. He signed it with his username!

I always use my first name. Does anyone else think this is weird?

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Registered: 08-07-2003
In reply to: invinoveritas
Tue, 08-19-2003 - 10:15pm
I've had a couple of guys do that and yes, I did find it odd. I've handled it a couple of ways. A couple of times, I just wrote back and signed my first name, and the guys took the hint and did the same when they wrote back. Most recently, a guy who did this had his initials as his username, and so I just kiddingly asked if he was going to make me guess what the initials stood for. He replied and gave me his entire name - first, middle & last!

I would just ask - hey, i'm ___, what's your name? I'm sure he'll tell you, and if he doesn't, well then, that's really weird.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: invinoveritas
Tue, 08-19-2003 - 11:19pm
No, I do not use my first name. Not even on this message board. I know of a few members here who do not post their real name. I know I have a picture but hey their are many people who look a like. I use my user name even if I have a picture as far as finding out personal information that makes a difference. Especially with my first name, it took me till high school to find another with the same name and even that was spelled differently. No chances, especially when I am asked about my user name and how I came up with it. My last name (what i use now when it has nothing to do with my son) and my sons last name and many things are in it where I am. It would be very easy to find out about me and no chances, plus my job etc...

I do not mind getting a username untill we move to the phone because usually after that a meeting is coming soon and then maybe I divulge my real first name.

Marie

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Registered: 04-16-2003
In reply to: invinoveritas
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 9:46am
Yes, that does sound alittle odd, but then again maybe he is new to on line dating and thought that was the norm. Give him a shot to open up, because he might be keeping things safe and getting to know you first before he gives his name and such. Some people are strange that way. Or....here I go overanalyzing. What if he is married, or in a relationship and wanted go on line and get some action. Or, then again he may be embaressed to even be trying the on line dating site. Some people still have issues dating on line, so give him a shot and see what happens. Ask him why he does that. Maybe he has some quirky reason. goodluck and let us know!


gail:)

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Registered: 07-05-2003
In reply to: invinoveritas
Wed, 08-20-2003 - 10:58am
When I receive an intital email from someone I write back and sign with my username or intial. Sometimes I don't hear back again, or I receive a response that raises a red flag. And then I'm relieved that I did not reveal my name. If it seems that there is mutual interest then I begin using my real name. Keep in mind that this does not go on for long because I only exchange a maximum of 4 emails before I move to talking on the phone. I also try to meet men within the first week of initial contact. So yeah, I wouldn't worry too much if he signs with his username for the first 2 emails. But after that he should tell you his real name if he intends on pursuing anything with you.

jhoover21

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