First time meeting someone from dating site

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First time meeting someone from dating site
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Mon, 04-25-2011 - 3:14pm

After 4 months of feeling that I am being strung along, I decided to join an online dating site.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 8:34pm

Good for you that you've found someone interesting!

I recommend a 2-hour "date" for the first meeting. I think it's really hard to meet someone for the first time, no matter how much you feel you are hitting it off beforehand. It's almost always different. But, you've already made plans, but just know that's putting a lot of pressure on the two of you.

I read somewhere that it's good to go to a first meet as if you are meeting a friend--don't worry so much if he's "The One." Just see where it goes. It really takes the pressure off. This has helped me on first meets.

Just be yourself, but don't become confessional, or talk about past boyfriends or marriages. Keep it light. Be positive about things in your life.

As to your wardrobe, hmmmm...dinner then bowling? That's a tough one, but I guess it depends on where you go eat. If it's casual, you could just wear capris and a cute top. And cute sandals that could be slipped off for those great bowling shoes.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 04-25-2011 - 10:39pm

It's kind of late now since you already made plans, but I think a first meet should be something very casual and kind of quick so that if you didn't hit it off, you wouldn't feel obligated to stay for a long time.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Tue, 04-26-2011 - 8:23pm

My first meet was dinner and then a movie if everything was good for both of us.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 5:40am

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 10:57am

I don't know why but my exH hated capris--he would always make a comment about why did women wear those pants and I would point out that it's the style.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 11:38am

Capris with heels can be very sexy, but again it depends on the person, because they make your legs look shorter.

Apparently men don't pay much attention to what you wear, as long as it looks good on you. So the OP should just wear something that is comfortable and that makes her look good and only she knows what it is.

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Wed, 04-27-2011 - 7:59pm

From what I understand from the guys that have told me this, one being my ex bil, they make even tall womens legs look shorter and a big no no for short girls and make your butt look bigger but have you ever heard a guy say, damn those capris look hot?

My ex always hated them too.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 6:35pm

capris model.jpgHi Capris are not fashion in many parts of the country(US).

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Registered: 02-23-2010
Thu, 04-28-2011 - 7:11pm

It's hard to answer what you should wear.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 04-29-2011 - 4:47am

OK, so I guess you shouldn't wear capris. Sheesh. Maybe this style is more popular in Florida.

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